My live in boyfriend of 2 years is an online gaming addict. Its been getting worse and worse as time goes by.
As soon as he comes home, he goes straight to the computer and turns it on. I am lucky if he glances in my direction to say hi to me. Instantly, he sits down to play games. His excuse is that he's worked all day and he deserves to unwind. He games all the way until it is time for bed, and then says he needs to go to bed right away so end of story. This is pretty much everyday.
If he gets up while a game is loading or something, he'll go and love on the cat for a minute, then goes right back to the computer. I feel like I don't even exist!!
I get one of two responses if I interrupt him while he's gaming..one is annoyance. The other is he goes completely mute. I'll ask him a question and he just stares off into space with this blank, sad look on his face.
I have confronted him several times about this, sometimes with sadness and crying and sometimes with anger and even rage!!! I become INFURIATED to sit by and hear him talk and converse and laugh, with these people he's never even really met. Online, he sounds genuinely happy.......I can't remember the last time we've talked and laughed together.
Oh, and of course he blames his constant video game playing on me!! He says because CT is BORING and there's nothing to do here. (But most times when I invite him to join me and friends to go out, he'd rather game!!!)
The only time he ever speaks to me is to "butter me up" and get sex...(of course, he denies this!) as soon as we have sex he's back online or goes to sleep. No bedtime conversation or anything. I always give in because I feel so happy when he actually pays attention to me. but after its done, I feel so used and cheap.
Lately, I have become so sad and depressed my health has been steadily declining. I really love him and I'm not in a position to leave, but I'm definitely at the end of my rope! He ALWAYS picks the video games over me and I'm sick of it!!