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Hello everyone. I am the author of the "Interesting Story from the EQ Wids Site" that was posted on 8/1/02, in the My Story Section.
First off some things about me. I am 21, almost 22 years old. I live in NY and lived in a small town in WV growing up.
My family was a close family, almost to close. Like smothering close. My grandmother was the sibling of 8 other children, my grandfather was the sibling of 6. My greatgrandmother and great grandfather came over from Italy. My mother was the sibling of 4 other children. To this day, I'm in contact with all my uncles, aunts, great uncles and great aunts. Not to mention my great grandmother and until my great grandfather died of cancer, him too. My mother was a rouge in the rough so to say. She was a plain looking girl. Nobody ever loved her and when finally someone did, it wasn't met to be. Needless to say my mother and my father (whom I do not know) got together one night after dating for a while, and she got pregnant. He left under mysterious circumstances the next day. I do not know where he is to this day, and this cut me very deeply.
I am the sibling of a sister, who is another attempt of my mother looking for 'love'. She will be 18 this feb. My mother favored my sister over me. I was never the bad child. I always tried to recieve my mothers love. For example, one time, I won Second in an art contest (when i was 15, 16, or 17) and what does my mother say? "Nikki, come in first next time" Not a good job. I was a pretty girl, but I never felt if I belonged. All the guys I dated, there was some type of feeling missing. I chalk this up to the feeling you have when you know your mother loves you. Then came my mother's marriage to my stepdad. I suppose, I should have been tickled pink that she finally had someone to love, but I had this absolute dread deep down inside of me. Turns out that my stepdad has a rare case of MS (Multiple Scholosis) and "Donald has the brain of a Two year old Infant" (the doctor said that). I had to change his diapers, feed him, bathe him, with the help of my sister. Needless to say, I ran away with the first guy that showed any signs of undying love to me, which brings me to my fiance.
Justin was not the problem child. He was not the most popular kid in class and he once tried to commit suicide, though he will not tell me why. He was a shell of a man when I met him, threw AOL in college. I wanted to help him and one thing turned to another and we ended up spending the night together one night. Being with me turned his life around. HE was never depressive, his personality changed, and he became loving. (This was all before DAoC and EQ) I knew he was my soulmate the minute I laid eyes on him, and he felt the same way. We had a happy year together and got a place together. Then came the game that I wanted to buy.....EverQuest.
EverQuest doesn't sound that bad. I did not foresee that it would eventually lead to the downfall of my relationship. At first, I admit, I was intrigued by it. When I started my enchanter, Ninnydari, I was immediately in a guild, at lvl 1. I'm leaving the guild name out for an obvious purpose. I soon took on the role of helping the guild to be better. Then EverQuest lost its appeal to me. I admit, I still think about going back to it sometimes but then I remember Justin's attitude about it.
Justin lost 3 jobs because he stayed up all night and wouldn't get up for work. He became irritable and there was this person on there that I'm still wary about. He says nothing happened, that they just joked around and flirted. Well, his body rotted one day and he had to start the character over. She sent him a tell and he said, "It'll be awhile until we can hunt together again." She replied, "I can wait, You're worth it." He replied, "Watch what you say, you can get me in trouble with my girlfriend." I happen to be passing by that moment. She didn't write anything back and that was the last he heard from her. I have a habit of overreacting because in the past my ex boyfriend of 9 years slept with my suppose best friend. We almost broke up over that conversation.
Things changed with DAoC. He still stayed up late and missed work but At least he wasn't cheating on me. I could put up with it, until we got in an argument and he hit me and tried to choke me. That was the wake up call that he needed.
The rest everyone knows.
Just wanted to say hi and I'll try to help the best I can. My boyfriend is stubborn and still insists that he hasn't got a problem so he won't come to this site. I apologize for how long this is too.
Love and Best Wishes
***For those of you who haven't read it, here is the "rest of the story".....
Hello everyone. I know its been awhile since you have heard from
me. I been very busy since i last posted.
For one thing i had to do alot of thinking, since my beloved came
home from his temporary stay at his mothers. While he did not go
back to playing that '****' game (Dark Age of Camelot) for about a
week, soon he started playing obscene amounts of time on it again. I
asked him to stop and cut down and he basically told me, "Why, I get
up on time for work, I get alot of sleep," I then told him some
choice words and that i would move back with my mother, until he
would realize that its either me or that game. (My mother lives in
WV and I live in western NY btw.)
Within a couple of weeks, I get a call from him. He basically said
that he was sorry, blah, blah, blah. I had heard that all before,
around the time that he said he would cut down after he hit me! But
this time, there was a note of desperation in his voice, that wasn't
there last time. Well, i think it was there, perhaps i was hearing
things in his voice I wanted to hear. Then he said, "Snuggles, you
know i love you. I'd do anything you want to make it up to you. I'm
a man of my word." Just like the last time he said he would cut down
and didn't? I was thinking, but i decided i'd give him 1 more chance
but if i was coming back it would be on my own terms. I then told
him, "If i am coming back, you ARE going to delete your characters
and uninstall DAoC. Then your going to break the CD so you can't
reinstall it. Finally, you ARE going to admit that you have a
problem." I was never this bossy ever in my life. But when you
reach the end of your rope with someone it is surprising to what you
would do. In short, he did everything he said he was going to do.
He actually cried when he deleted his 43 arms! I, myself, thought
this was pathetic, but i didn't want to say anything.
The next week was like we were on egg shells. He was snappy and
moody. He did not feel like 'being' together at all. I chalked this
up to withdrawl. He actually went through withdrawl from this game.
Its sick to know that someone can become addicted to a game, and its
alittle scary to.
I went shopping with friends one night, and figure to ease his habit,
I'd by him neverwinter nights. You don't have to play it online, but
its free to do so. Its a form of Dungeons and Dragons, but on the
computer. I walk in the house and found him glueing the pieces of
the CD together. To my surprise, horror, and amazement, I dropped
the bag that contained NWN.
To keep my addict's attention, i bought several things to try to keep
his mind off of it. I suggested he enroll back into school, having
dropped out of college. I also enrolled. I'm going to be a
zoologist when I grow up and look forward to working with animals. He
wants to be a teacher, and eventually teach college. To do this, he
has to kick his addiction.
Well, now, its calmed down quite a bit. Last night, just before
getting up to go to work, he came in and admitted to me that it was
insane to spend time on creating a character. He missed out on so
much of me. I just smiled and knew that this was as close as I was
going to get to him actually admitting and believing that he was
addicted. Who knows what will happen now.
Edited by: lizwool at: 8/15/02 1:28:55 pm