I happened upon your site today. Here is a brief synopsis of my sitch.
I met a 30 year old guy that was the sweetest thing. A few months of dating, and he moved in. A bit fast, but now I know it was for my gig backbone and ligtning fast connection. Keep in mind, I didn't know he played Lineage II till he moved in. He quickly started ignoring me and lost his job, played L2 for hours and hours, and never even came to bed with me. I couldn't figure out why he said he loved me and then ignored me. So I even started playing the game, can't beat them join them, right? NOT!
Lets jump forward to five months later. He finally went back to work, but got really grumpy and depressed. He never made dinner, never cleaned or did maintanance on our vehicles, I paid for everything because his meager salary went to paying for 12 accounts of L2, and the time cards to bot his accounts to high levels! I got sick of it and kicked him out. He now lives at home with his parents (again he's 30) and stays up all night until they yell at him or yank the power cord to his computer and force him to go to bed. He says he wants to reconcile. But when we go to dinner, all he talks about is our characters in game!
I wish I had known about online gaming addiction when he moved in and set up his computer. This all makes sense now. He isn't living in reality, he's addicted to L2. I don't need help quitting, I barely play now but for siege once ever two weeks for two or three hours. But how do you convince someone like my ex that he needs help?? He will never amount to anything as long as he plays this game. He will never have a life, never go to school, and will never have a family. Is there an intervention you can do for someone like him? He denies he has a problem and chides me for not logging in enough (!!) He compares it to people watching TV...should I try to help or just wash my hands of him. We are still friends... but only when I log in and get in vent LOL. Any advice to help me help my ex?
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