This is my first post here, apologies if it is in the wrong place.
My partner and i have been togeather for 4 years, we are a young couple of 20 and 22 and have lived togeather since we were 16 and 18.
As we live independantly at a young age and i am a student, money is and always has been sparse, as are jobs in our area thus we decided to conceive some way of making money online, by doing payed questiannares etc etc, non of which worked out or gained us much extra money.
My boyfriend then suggested 'second life', i gave it a try was not at all interested in it and diddnt like the idea of talking to strangers online. Upon playing the game a while as a female character, my boyfriend gained a 'job' on the game training sex slaves, basically he says he tought these 'slave' characters how to role play for small amounts of money, the idea made me feel sick, he would stay up from 11pm to 10am and then spend the rest of the day sleeping so i never saw him and spent the whole day alone, i spoke to him about it and he agreed to go on the game in moderation. Things were great during this period and my boyfriend would spend much time with me.
My boyfriend suggested that he could create items on the second life online market place and sell them for small amounts of money which i thought was a reasonable and harmless thing to try, so i begun to allow him to return to the game, again i aked for him to do so in moderation so we could spend time togeather, but gradually he would begin to spend the whole night on the game, not allowing me to see what he is doing by turning the screen away when i came into the room, constantly bringing the game up in conversation, even comparing my looks to his female character and when trying on clothes say 'secret has something like that'. The fact he refers to his avatar as though she is real disturbed me in a sense.
When i complain about him being on the game, he promises 'tomorrow i wont go on it, i will spend the day with you' but he will still go on the game and blame me for not spending time with him, he also gets very angry and will say 'im doing it for money! Dont you want PS2000?!' (He claims someone is paying him PS2000 to build a house, i find this very hard to beleive)
He also was thrown off his college course earliar this year due to his late nights meaning he did not go in the majority of the time, i strongly beleive this is due to second life although he states otherwise and says it was because our relationship was in shambles (BECAUSE OF SECOND LIFE!!)
I just dont know what to do anymore, i'm begining to feel very lonely and i am worried this online game is becoming an addiction, or he is lying about what exactly he is doing on there, i find it very strange how someone can find 'role playing' so fun.
What can i do to make him realise he's wasting his life away on this game? He is ruining both our lives and stopping himself from progressing in life and education!