Last Friday, my kids (with Father's Day presents in their hands from pre-school) and I came home to an empty house. There was only a note saying for that he had done nothing but hurt me and the kids and was holding us back from what we could accomplish. That morning we had a the typical daily discussion about where the kids cubbies were and where we were going to go for dinner that night.
After the initial shock and over the past several days, I have pieced together that this has been going on for a long time. I found credit card bills for cards I didn't even know about that were for nothing but beer and www.casesladder.com spades - addictive ladder.
Three years ago he suffered a TIA/seizure. We decided to move to the mountains to be in the environment we loved since life was decidedly precious for us at that time. Since being here, he has worked some but had another TIA/seizure. We decided that he wouldn't work for a while and he would keep our kids. That turned out to be a disaster b/c he would just set them in front of the TV while he played cards.
He tried a few other jobs and miraculously just happened to keep losing them. This whole time I am being the single bread winner and also paying for the kids to be in day care. He said our money was tight b/c I spent too much. I was such a fool. I kept believing him b/c I loved who he used to be certainly not who he had become. I also couldn't bring myself to leave someone who had such severe health problems. He also has emphezema, terrible acid reflux, and high blood pressure.
Since he left, his terminally ill mother found out that he had used the gas cards he had conned her out of to travel to Michigan, Richland, NY as of 6/17/06. I went online and found the site that he stays on alot and contacted the other TDs. One told me that she thought he was on vacation in Canada. He has since emailed me from firstname.lastname@example.org addmitting he is a @#%$ but that he is following 'guidance'. A spiritual friend of mine sensed a possibility of possession.
Please share my story with as many people as possible. I don't want another family to have to go through this. For those of you who still have your family with you - please take whatever steps you need to no matter how severe to save your family.
Thanks for letting me vent and know that I'm not alone.