Been married for 2 years my husband was not this bad of a gamer or at least so I thought . But ober the la ass t 5 to 6 years he has just completely changed we dont talk anymore spend time together thats next ro none. Like uesterday he had a midnight release for a game I went with him just to be close. He told me he wouldnt play the game when he got home I knew he would he pops the game in updates his stuff then begins playing the game he plays till 2 in the morning, mind you he has to get up at 6 am for work then he goes to work came home today played from 12'30 to 5:30 pm he stopped long enoufh to watch a movie and return it came home and started playing again at 9 pm till now almost 11 im so lost he want a family a baby and I just dont think in this enviroment it would be good to have a baby most days I dont even know if I want to stay married I dont give up easily but I get like a hour or 2 a night with my hisband if im lucky and thats being in the same room as him he doesnt get it doesnt see his gaming is hirting oir marriage bit no its always me or he s stressed so he plays to keep stress at bay I really dont know whaylt to do any more my mother wanr s me to come home and start over but I dont want to go home at the same r ime I dont want to get a divorce over a stupid xbox he gets so defensive if I tell him he has a problem what am I supposed to do just cry ok n a cornor and bmp let him have his way thats no way to live I just dont know anymore
Hi Lonelyeyes
You are not alone here at Olg-anon. Many people here understand what is to feel second best to a game as far as their spouse is concerned.
You may find it really helpful to read the sticky posts in the blue area at the top of the spouses forum, and as much else on the forum and website as possible to see how other people cope in similar situations to you.
You are unhappy and there are things that you can do to help you. These sad feelings are helpful because they will motivate you to find a better way ahead. You have your whole life ahead of you
All the best xxx
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Hi lonely eyes glad to hear you are thinking twice about starting a family. My husband works and then plays runescape . We have been together 30 years and have 2 children ( not children now 19 and 21). Until he started gaming we had a great life and did everything together. He started with Pokemon then went on to runescape. He has changed so much I don't recognise him any more. He uses the game to meet women and is now on the 3 that I know of . He had even arranged to pick her up from the airport she lives in holland and us in England for a dirty weekend until I found out . If lying was a sport he would be a world champion. We live in the same house but that is it we share a bed only as there is no spare room but we have no physical contact. I have to do everything from housework gardening decorating finance cleaning the car and anything else that needs doing. He has no time for anyone else but himself and his sons won't call him dad and want me to leave him which I also want to do but I have to put money aside to do that and as soon as that's sorted we are off. I'm not saying this will happen to you but please put yourself first and if you need to go to your mums even if it's to give you time to think . People who know us would never believe how we live although I have now told my friends. I was embarrassed for a long time and felt it was my fault . The first time I found out about the woman on RS I should have left but I gave him a second chance and he just got worse. He can't or won't help himself and I no longer care . I can't believe just how different he is to the man I married and feel sad about the man I lost . I'm 51 and if I was younger would have gone long ago but I don't have parents or relations to go to and I'll admit I'm scared of starting again after30 years with one man but I have realised I have no option . It's not about giving up it's about doing the right thing for yourself . Living in different rooms is no life and you deserve to be happy and with someone who puts you first befor anything else. Love Monday x