Last night during dinner with my b/f, he struck up a conversation with me about work, and a PTO situation a year in the making, finally being resolved. He told me that he was taking the whole Thanksgiving weekend off, and two additional "personal days" off. Then I jokingly said, "You mean two WoW days off?" I was joking and he then informed me that the two personal days were for the Expansion Pack release date for WoW. He became increasingly agitated. His response to me was, "I deserve two personal days off to do whatever I chose to do?" I responded, yes you do, but it blows my mind that you would take two personal days off just for WoW. He then stated that I have an attitude problem, and to go **** myself. I looked at him and asked, "Did you just tell me to go **** myself? He then questioned me as to whether or not it was "my life's mission," to take all the fun out of WoW for him." I looked at him, and said, "Yes. Its my life's mission." I was simply responding to his absurd way of thinking that MY life is totally dedicated to WoW, and therefore it was my "sole mission" in life to ruin WoW for him. Are you kidding me? He then asked me if I was ever going to be able to accept WoW and his gaming. My response to that question was, No. I won't. I was so offended by his total lack of respect for me, and left the table. I went into our bedroom, and shut and locked the door. Of course he couldn't just leave me alone so he found a way to open the door. He comes in, just stands there arms folded and in a very defensive posture, and said, "Then what are we going to do then?" I didn't respond to this question because I had asked him to leave me alone, and he didn't respect my wishes. He just kept standing there staring at me. He then decided to turn the t.v. off as to "force" me to talk to him. I stood up and left the room, and his response was well, I'll just quit trying then. I said thank you, and he said I'll stop trying in this whole relationship."
Every time we have a disagreement he threatens me with ending the relationship. Our last fight, he told me that he would never threaten my security in our relationship again. Well, you guessed it. He did. Yet again. If I were to leave, I have no job, and the car is in his name. I would be left with nothing. He knows this, and continually does this to me. As I said before I take care of my nephew and am paid 400.00 a month for taking care of him. My three-year-old daughter also stays at home with me. Every time he says these things to me, I sit and start thinking of where I can go, that I need to start looking for a job outside the home, if I'll lose my income from watching my nephew.
If I ask my b/f point blank, "Do you want this to work or not? Because if you don't, let me go so that I can move on with my life. He knows that I want this to work, and its as if his only leverage is putting me out on the street so to speak.
My b/f hadn't been playing WoW for two weeks. and it was so nice. He wasn't playing because there was "drama" going on with his guild. His brother is also a WoW addict, so they had both stopped playing. Then what do you know, we are grocery shopping, and having a great day together, and the dreaded phone call comes from his brother. What are they talking about you might ask? WoW. That night the cycle began all over again. I went downstairs saw that he was playing WoW again, and said, so you're playing again huh? Well tell your brother, thanks....thanks a lot. Then I walked away. His brother and his brother's wife don't even sleep in the same bed! The only relationship that my b/f and his brother have is over the game! His brother never comes over for dinner with his wife, they never go golfing or do any outside the house activities together, and I am starting to hold some resentment toward my boyfriends brother.
My b/f would really chose the game over me. Although he wouldn't admit that, he would just say that he isn't gong to be controlled by me. I don't know what to do. Every time he threatens the relationship, he always says, yes I do want to work on our relationship. No I don't want to break up. I love you. He left this morning to work without even saying a word to me. I don't know what to do.