I am new to all this, so please bear with me...
My problem isn't with addiction...yet. Or maybe it is, and I am still in denial...
I am 27 years old, and have been married to my husband for a little over a year.
About two and half years ago I picked up WoW as a fun game and way to keep in touch with friends that lived far away. My husband (boyfriend at the time) decided he would get an account as well, and so we played together. Our computers were right next to each other, so it was a fun hobby for us to do together that didn't cost too much money. It was a purely social thing, both of us hold down our jobs, paid our bills, saw our friends outside the game. We both actually stopped playing for a while last year so we could plan our wedding. A month or so after the wedding, we reactivated our accounts and were back at it.
Fast forward to about eight months ago, and my husband is laid off from his job in IT. This begins the vicious cycle of searching for a job, not getting the job, self esteem falls. As time goes on, he retreats deeper into the game. In WoW, he is someone important, who has an important job to do. My husband is a raid leader for a guild we are both in. He organizes and leads 24 different people to accomplishing goals. He researches strategies, and implements them. I know it seems silly, but I am actually very proud of these accomplishments. These are skills that can be easily translated to real life! He is a leader, with excellent people skills...Just he doesn't realize it outside the game.
My husband is not violent. He still spends time with me off the computer. But he seems to be trying less and less to find a job...And that bothers me. Again, the whole vicious cycle thing. The longer its taking, the less he wants to try. I don't want him to slip into addiction...
Is my husband depressed? Is he an addict? Is he both? My husband was diagnosed several years ago with Adult ADD and Cerebral Palsy. He does not take any medications. Could this be affecting him?
I know these are really questions for a mental health professional. I am just trying to research everything to learn what might be going on.
Thank you for any help or advice you can provide!
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