Hello. I found this forum this weekend and have read many posts. I was relived and saddened all at the same time as so many other people are suffering like I am. I have been married to my husband for 3 years. I am his second wife and he has two children that live with us.
He has always played video games but when WOW came out things changed, It was only a few times a week then everyday, now it is 20 hours a day. I tried playing with him for a little while but because he played so much he got so far ahead that he would no longer play with me. He has given up other hobbies for this game. If we do go on vacation he takes the laptop with us so he can play.
His kids suffer. He spens no time with them. They resent him. I have been forced to enroll my step son in Big Brothers Big Sisters so that he can have a good male role model. My husband was all for this. I cook, clean, pay bills and take care of his kids while he sits all night. He does work but plays during work sometimes. We all wear ear plugs so that we can sleep and not hear him talk all night.
My husband and I are no longer intimate. I want to have a baby but he says he is not ready even though last year we took out a loan in order for him to have a vasectomy reversal so i could get pregnant. What a waste of money. We barely talk and I resent him mostly. But I ask myself if it is a good idea to have a baby with a man like this or do I move on.
I am positive that his addiction drove his first wife to have an affair and leave. I do not condone that for one minute but the lonliness I feel when I am a few feet away and he is a millon miles away is killing me. I give him ulitmatums but he gets very angry. He says that he doesn't have a problem, it makes him happy and he is not sleeping around or going to the bar. He refuses to make any time for me and the kids. I want to leave but I love him and i cannot put his kids through another divorce when they are just beginning to deal with his first one.
I do not feel sexy, attractive or wanted any longer. His rejection of sex has killed my passion. I am trying to build a life of my own within our marriage to save myself. I do not know if believe strongly enough in my vows to live like this forever.
Is there a light?