This is my 1st post.
I live with my children's Dad (I can't call him my partner anymore as we are now completely physically and emotionally detached due to gaming).He 'games' from 7pm, as soon as the kids are in bed, until 2 or 3am every single night. He frequently, has days off of work to stay home in a quiet house and game- this can be in secret or just point blank refusal to go. He is self employed and doesn't get paid for days off. I am in debt and I work part time and pay for absolutely everything.
I've been reading your advice pages and the recommendation that you 'try to ignore' the gamers addiction and totally focus on myself. I understand the concept of this working and I'm willing to try (although it will be extremely hard as I am constantly angry). My problem is that we live in a small flat and it is hard to ignore someone shouting and screaming at a computer with headphone on, while you are trying to relax after a hard day at work!
I am thinking of cancelling our Internet. I pay the broadband and I have access to the account. He has no means setting it back up as he has no debit card/ bank account. Is this a good idea? Will he resent me? He can get extremely aggressive if I or one of the kids turns his computer off mid game. Is it dangerous to cancel like this?
I don't know what to do, this is running mine and my kids lives. What do I tell my 3 year old boy when he wants to go and play football but Daddy is constantly in bed all morning because he plays computer games all night- what message does that send him? He already has a tablet computer and wants to play games constantly like Daddy himself.
Maybe we would be better off leaving. My children's Dad has no means of providing for himself or getting himself up for work. Why should I be responsible for a grown man. Am I letting him down if I leave?
Thanks for listening,
From an angry, sad, lonely and frustrated lady :(