I am also experiencing difficulties with my SO due to his excessive gaming. Both my boyfriend and I are 19 and we began dating just about a year ago. He was a perfect and caring boyfriend back then. He always provided me with love, warmth, care and attention. If I were upset, he'd notice right away and tried his best to fix the problem and made sure I was happy again. During school, we were with each other 24/7.
However, ever since the month of January, we have been in a long distance relationship because we each had to go back home and have 4 months of internship. Ever since we've been apart, my boyfriend started to play an online game every single day. He would have work from 9 to 7 pm. Each time he comes home, he would be on the computer playing video games. I know this because it shows up on his gaming account. If he's not playing the game, he is either eating or sleeping. I just feel like he never has time for the relationship anymore because hes constantly playing that game. Every time I try to confront him about this issue, he would call me annoying and tell me he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. Then, he'd ignore my text, call, etc and go play the game again. He justifies his gaming by saying he is really stressed from work and he can only destress by having some alone time through playing video games. He even lies about how long he spends playing this game every day. After arguing over his gaming habits for about 3 weeks, it has really taken a toll on our relationship.
I don't know what to do anymore. We've been in ldr last summer but it was completely different. (however, we didn't have to go to work back then) We would message everyday and talk about almost everything. Every weekened, we made sure to visit each other and plan cute dates. Seeing each other was the highlight of both of our week. Comparing last summer to now, it is totally different. We barely message each other anymore because he takes too long to respond while playing games, we never call, and never skype. We see each other once every two weeks max, and it will only be about 4 hours each visit.
I really like him a lot and it is so hard to try and leave him. This is only my first relationship and I don't know what to do. When we hang out, he is still really sweet and kind. I remember last week when he came over, it was the first time we were secluded from the outside world and can truly be together for a day. He looked so torn and upset when he had to leave after the day was over. He even shed some tears (he usually never cries). It felt like to me, at that moment, he didn't want to leave me at all. However, when I invited him to watch a movie with him today, he rejected it and said maybe next week. When I checked his gaming account, it said, as expected, that he is playing his video game again. What should I do? Should I break up with him? Should I try to talk to him more? But even when I try to tell him, he'd find me annoying and threaten to hang up/stop messaging. I understand that he needs to relax and have some fun after a long day of work... but he never has time for me at all anymore. Am I being unreasonable for wanting some attention?
P.S. As I am writing this post, he is playing the game.