Hi, I'm new here. 25, not a gamer myself, but my boyfriend has played video games since he was 7 and it's a huge part of his life. We've been living together for about a year now; we dated for a year previously. I found out he was a gamer later into dating, when we met and started dating he never mentioned it. We went camping, hiking, had cooking dates and even talked about taking dance lessons. I never knew how extensively he played until we started living together. Honestly, it never bothered me, as we both kept busy with social activities and hobbies. I didn't feel like I was left out or unwanted - just that he really loves gaming. But in the last 6 months money has grown tight and we've been staying in a lot more. Now, it's not just a few hours in the evening. It's every day. For hours. Staying up till 6 in the morning. Avoiding or canceling plans to stay home. Getting visibly upset when he can't game, or overly stressed if he expects to have time to game and that unexpectedly changes. And now, he's stopped going to work. At first it was because he hurt his back; that was a MONTH ago, and he's still making excuses so he can stay home from work and game. All day. He doesn't clean, avoids responsibilities - sometimes he doesn't even bathe or brush his teeth! I'm absolutely at my wits end. He seems to have no idea what kind of stress that places one me, having to work extra hours to try and make ends meet and coming home to a messy apartment and a meal to cook. I am now losing sleep over it, and feeling depressed, anxious and upset all the time. I want to confront him tomorrow but I have no idea what to say or how to even start. I know gaming is something he loves and I don't want him to feel he has to give it up. But this is no longer a responsible or productive use of his time and it is directly affecting not only our relationship, but his relationships with family and friends, his financial and occupational well being. Any and all advice or support would be appreciated, as at this point I'm spending the night crying on the couch, feeling very much hopeless... :(
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