My partner is constantly playing games. He is on the sick so unfortunately cannot work. He spends most of his time playing games while I am either sleeping or at work.
It's gotten to the point where I am considering leaving due to his selfishness.
I hate going to bed and waking up on my own or waking up and he's most likely just gone to bed.
I'll get up and get ready for work and leave. When I get home he's playing and the house is a mess. I have to then clean up after him as he says he's been in too much pain to do anything (now don't get me wrong I know his medical problems are there but he makes no process to actually do what the doctors are saying to help because he just sits in the same position for a long amount of time.) He hasn't ate all day so waits until I have to cook for myself and him after work.
I'm getting tired of being ignored too while he talks to all his friends on his headset. So I just go to bed and start the process again. I feel like I'm basically living on my own and it's so lonely.
I asked him yesterday if maybe he could try and get a normal bedtime and that it didn't even have to be an early one just maybe 12am-1am he could get up at 10am or something.
His reply was "I don't see the point because it's not like I have anything to get up for."
I think this is what really got to me because I'm here, I'm a reason. Sometimes on my day off I'll get up around 9am since I'm used to that and I won't see him until about 2-3pm because he's just getting out of bed. Then he'll maybe watch something with me but he's always asking "what do you want to do?" And obviously most the day has gone to go anywhere and I get sick of watching TV, I don't have any games to play because he deletes them for space so I end up saying "I don't know." And he always just puts his game back on anyway after turning down most my ideas.
I think a few weeks ago it hurt me too as I had been ill for a few weeks and feeling not myself, so I took a pregnancy test just incase. I was really scared and he wouldn't even put his game down to come sit with me or even hug me after because it was "not a good time to ask for hugs as he can't pause."
That got me thinking too tho about how I probably couldn't start a family with him anyway and I'm obviously not important enough to him even though he tells me he loves me and he would be nothing without me.
I just don't know what to do anymore. Should I break off my engagement and move home. I'd lose my job due to travel problems and is that any reason to stay in a lonely relationship? Am I being selfish?