I'm feeling pretty lost at the moment. I am a pregnant newlywed. I've been with my husband about 3.5 years. We just got married in December. I believe my husband has a gaming addiction. He has played games his whole life. Sometimes he will play less and sometimes more depending upon the game. He obviously plays more with some of the more addicting games such as Civilation and Ark. Ark is his new addiction.
When we first met things were wonderful and he could not get enough of me. As time wen't on, he was less interested in me and hid his video game playing from me for the first 6 months we were together. He says he was afraid I'd think he was a loser. I must say, if I had known about the video game issue I would not have pursued the relationship. But by the time I found out about the gaming I was so in love with him.
Currently, he is playing Ark. He has not slept in the bed with me for two weeks until I got so upset that I cried. He then finally slept with me for two nights. Our sex life is now non-existant, going from 2-3 times a day in the beginning. He missed 2 doctors appontments during this time and the grass had grow to almost a foot. I'd say it's safe to say he is neglecting his daily responsibilities as well as me, his spouse. We never have conversations or do anything together anymore. We have nothing to talk about. Now this is what's currently happening. And we have argued over his gaming habits in the past. I once found his online profile and it showed him playing 90hrs in two weeks. That's a full-time job. And he works full-time, so no wonder I feel totally neglected. He doesn't think he has a problem. He tells me to stop watching tv, reading books and surfing the internet. He compares those actions to the same thing as gaming. But I disagree. If I watch TV I'm usually multi-tasking. If I'm surfing the web it's more about research. I rarely read books, the last one was about pregnancy. I think these are legit things to spend time doing. I'm not picking berries and killing dinosaurs in a fantasy world for hours on end, not sleeping and neglecting my spouse. I feel like the only thing to do is get a divorce. I've asked him to cut back so many times. And he will for a short period. But here's the thing. We are having a baby. I will not watch him play video games while I raise our child by myself. I will not expose my child to such destructive behavior. I'm just at a loss. I love him but I don't know what to do. Honestly, if this is how he acted toward me when we met, there would be no we. I feel totally rejected, unloved, undesired and lonely. The best part about this new game. His friend bought us an XBox as a wedding gift. Very thoughful of his friend. He said he bought it so they could spend time together. Well I guess I hope the two of them will be happy together.