hello everyone.. I found this website earlier this morning and am honestly hoping someone on here can help.
i have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half, and he is heavily addicted to video games. He is a senior in college and is no longer graduating next month due to his video game addiction. He also quit his job, which he says is because he was unhappy working there, but it was honestly to play more video games. He has not put in any effort to find a new job, and all my best efforts at trying to motivate him to get his life together go unheard or unnoticed.
Our relationship has suffered greatly because of this. His video game addiction is the root of all our fighting, and I am torn between wanting to help him or leaving this relationship because of how neglected I feel.
our sex life is also suffering because of this. I feel that he prefers to masturbate now when I'm not around, because it's quicker and allows him to play video games immediately after. I cannot count how many times I've been bailed on, ignored, or set aside because of his video game addiction.
i love this man very much, but at this point in our relationship I'm not sure what else I can do. Last night was possibly our biggest fight yet, in which I made him choose between me or his video games, and he proceeded to walk away from me because he said he had to get back to his game. That right there should be enough to let me know it's time to walk away, but I am so heartbroken and torn my all of this.
Whenever I bring up the issue, he just responds by saying "I know I need to get my life together, I'm going to do it" and then gives me some excuse as to why he can't start to change right away. He always sets some future date when he'll start looking for a job, such as "I have exams all this week, so after this week is over I'll do something about it." He then fails to show up to his exams because of his video games, and once that next week comes around, nothing changes as he promised.
can anyone please help me with this situation and shed some light as to what I'm supposed to do at this point? I need all the advice I can get.