This is my first post although I am here for a while. First of all I apologise for my English as it's not my mother tongue. My boyfriend (47) plays up to 18 hours daily, he occasionally take breaks while at work, but whenever he is not working or sleeping (4-5 hours a night). He plays non stop. He also stay days without showering, shaving, eats only crap food..
During our holidays he played everyday,everywhere, during sightseeing, restaurants, excursions...he called his game buddies and chatted with them on LINE constantly.I've asked him to at least reduce it a bit... he might do it for a few times but then he is back to his old pattern.
He doesn't want to go anywhere because he is either extremely tired or has a quest to fulfil in the game.
I attended a local group to suppport relatives for about 7 months. The group was great to realize that I am not alone in this journey or I am crazy or make unrealistic requests, but I gave up as my BF said he loves the game and has no intention to stop it.
He is loving and caring to me, but more and more he says I am nagging for attention...which I am, because I feel that if I don't ask for attention and affection, I won't get it.
My 2 psychologists said I should leave him...but it's easier said than done. His father offered to pay all treatments, doctors, medis..he doesn't want..
I do take care of myself, I exercise, go out, meet friends...but I feel that threre is no space for me in his life, that my love, patience, support are just not enough to make him realized that he is wasting his life. I feel powerless, hopeless, neglected, hurt.
It has been 2 years since my husband of 14 years left me and I thought I finally found a perfect man...and I all wanted is to enjoy a happy life with him, but his addiction is too strong... and I am completely lost :-(
Any kind words will be highly appreciated.