Feeling okay being away from the gamer spouse...

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Feeling okay being away from the gamer spouse...

Hello people,

So, I get very frustrated and angry with my husband because of his game usage when I am with him at our home.  I was very adamant about telling my parents (for support) while visiting them in another state.  However, I drove awhile and have had a great trip so far with my dog, parents, uncle, and I do not feel as angry as when I am with my husband.  I am now feeling guilty about possibly telling them and am conflicted as I am sleeping better and more relaxed (probably because I am not upset at my husband for putting gaming as his number 1 priority because I can not see him playing).  I do not know what to do.  I'm also worried that I will not tell them and then leave from my trip to go back to my husband and regret not telling them and feel all alone again.  Thoughts?  Feel free to ask questions if I was not too clear. Thanks!

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I can understand not wanting

I can understand not wanting to spoil your visit.

I can relate that it feels good to be away from seeing an addict  act out and waste their life.

But it may be better if you look at the long term picture here of what is best for you. You need to take positive steps to make change, otherwise things stay the same.

Questions you can ask yourself:

Are you not telling them because you don't want to accept that it is a real problem...that it might get better on its own? By telling them you actually have to admit it's serious and needs to be deallt with, and that feels uncomfortable ?

If things get worse later (likely) your parents may say 'we didn't know anything about this, why did you not tell us?' Perhaps they would want to know.

I hope that when you tell them they will support you. Will it feel good to get their support ? How might things change for the better if you tell them?

 

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