First aid kit for spouses and significant others of video game addicts

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First aid kit for spouses and significant others of video game addicts

If your husband, wife, partner or significant other is a video game addict you have come to the right place to find support and shared experience. WELCOME !! If you are a parent of a gamer click here

We are so glad you found us ! You are not alone !

This thread  will link you to the experiences of loved ones of gaming addicts. It may help you understand your situation and options..

TO GET A GRIP ON UNDERSTANDING THIS COMPULSIVE FORM OF BEHAVIOUR, IT MAY TAKE SOME TIME TO READ AND WORK  THROUGH THE INFORMATION. Keep coming back !

For many years, Olganon members  have had the courage to share their situations, seeking or offering support to others; giving  a sense that we are not alone in this situation. If you take some time to read our stories you may be able to find peace, instead of being a part of the madness that gaming addiciton brings to our families.  A big "Thank you!" to all those people who have given their time to develop a body of information and experience for others to share. If you benefit from this site, please consider donating so we can pay our website fees and stay open to others in the future. Thank you !

If you do not have so much time to search the forums, you can use the following selected threads linked below to learn what you can do and start you on your journey to peace and sanity.

When you have a better understanding of the possible options, we would encourage you to make a plan for how you are going to tackle your situation; give it some time and consideration before you act.

Here is an example of a plan (click here)    Think of possible consequences of your plan and plan for that too. Get support.

Please read on to find out the various links to information which may help you.

ADVICE FOR PUBLIC and NON MEMBERS:

1) Our 'welcome advice' for spouses and significant others of video gaming addicts is here: general advice on dealing with gaming addiction

http://www.olganon.org/spouses_of_excessive_gamers

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ALL THREADS BELOW ARE FOR MEMBERS ONLY. IT's FREE TO SIGN UP then you will also be able to access the member only forums and post on the forums. We do this because we sometimes need a safe space away  from people who do not understand our problem and might give inappropriate comments or advice.

2) Your partner is a gaming addict;  how to GET SUPPORT for YOU. We can feel isolated and alone when our loved one is addicted.  This guide explains the various options for support.

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/your-partner-gaming-addict-how-get

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3) What you can say or do:  What interventions may or may not work , and communication; how to express your concerns about their addiction to video games, to the gaming addict.

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/interventions-and-communication-sos

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4) Stop your part in keeping the gaming addict in addiction (stop enabling them) because we can be a part of the cycle of addiction

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/about-enabling-spousessos-addicted

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5) Start to “Detach with love” from what the gamer choses to do, in order to find peace and sanity. In this thread, find out what that means and how you can do it.

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/detachment-what-means-and-how-do-it

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6) Understand and enforce boundaries in your relationship. Protect your space from unwelcome interactions and addicted gamer behaviours.

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/boundaries-what-they-mean-and-how

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7) Find out how the gamer's videogame addiction can negatively impact on  children in the family

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/how-gaming-addiction-parent-can

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8) Learn more about their gaming addiction and the best way to support them in their recovery, once they accept their addiction

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/supporting-and-understanding-addict

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9) Online affairs; are they as bad as cheating in real life? 

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/members-experiences-and-attitudes

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10) When their online spending is out of control

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/he-has-spent-37k-8-months-gaming

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11) Deciding to stay or leave the gamer

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/do-i-stay-or-leave-gamer

These threads are just the start. Keep coming back !

INFO

Help for gamers here

Help for parents of gamers here

Help for spouses/SO's of gamers here

Parent's online meeting THURSDAY 9pmEST/EDT click here

Online meetings gaming addicts click here

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