Gaming when i work at home?

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Gaming when i work at home?

Hello,

I just wonderd...

I have been keeping a gaming log to see how many times my bf is gaming.

just also to see if i am the one who thinks he games too much or if it is really true.

from the 9 days he gamed 9 days... not always just as long, but everyday he has been gaming.

now i wonder...

i am at work, at home with my laptop.

he starts to play a game and talking to his buddies.

and i have told him before that i don't think its fair that i work and that he just starts gaming in front of me...

but he just blows it of too the wind :-(

what do you girls/boys think about this behaviour?

or am i just over reacting?

he starts his job by tomorrow, so today he has nothing to do, but he obviously knows I am at work... in front of his nose.

i dont know what to think about this.

 

Edit:

i just asked him nicely of he could stop gaming after the thing he is now doing.

he awnserd "so what else do i have to do than?" on which i said i don't know but for me it is also not motivating to work.

after that he said nothing... so i am feeling nervous now... :-( afraid that he will be angry again... but also it felt quite an acomplicement for me that i took my balls togheter and asked!

Sadness isn't that bad... but it should only contain 10% in your life

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Hello Helloyouall!

Hello Helloyouall!

Try this to see if he could be seen as addicted http://www.olganon.org/self_tests_on_gaming_addiction

If you are trying to work then it is rude that he is making noise near you. Ask him to go into another place and be quiet? If he does not respect your needs then consider your future.

You picking him up on his gaming will never work if you are trying to get him to cut down. People do not like to be controlled.

In the likely event that he is gaming to much by normal standards, you obsessing over how long he games is only hurting you. try and detach from that. Get an awesome life without him.

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self tests

Sigh i don't know if he can be seen as an addict many of those points attent to him too, but he also tries to keep the weekend free for us, and doesn't game in the evenings that much anymore, that's why i kept the diary.

But he can get so angry too when we talk about the gaming.

And yes he thinks i try to control him too much, and so i do... i can't stop getting anoyd by it when he games.

I need to detach from him, but i think i should speak with him about breaking up, cus i can't spend my life AGAIN with an addict or atleast with someone who seems to be an addict.

we don't have another room to put the computer, so we are sitting in the living room. But well if he could be in another room, than he would stay there all the time. That is also not very nice to live with. 

I came back from counseling, in which i speak with someone about my probs... my only probs atm are about his gaming... She said that i should let him know that i don't want to live like this no longer and untill i do so i need to relax... to quit thinking about the issue also when he games and if i do still want to break up i need to do so... pfff so trying to get some courage for BOTH! 

Now that i just got home and started my work again he is again gaming with his friends, not that they speak so much... but in my mind it shows that he just doenst care about what i say or do even if it's about my job...

But well if the other one wants to do what he wants than you can't indeed do much about it. But i also don't want to this anymore. I guess we just don't fit so well togheter aswell.

I am happy that i don't have kids with him, and i am happy this is MY home... and that i got a job...

other stories of other people here on the forum are alot more difficult than mine...

I need to work this out! Maybe i can give people also advice in the future... but maybe here in NL(EU). But first i need to do this for my self.

Polga what was your story? you got it anywhere written on the forum? i thought you had but i can't find it :-( i guess i overlooked

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If you are both young then he

If you are both young then he may need to 'grow up'. Could be he is stuck in adolescence a bit

My story is here

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