Im new here, and very grateful to have found this group, Ive been feeling lonley and betrayed by my Fiance and his gaming habits
He played games in the past but this recent game has him spinning out of control and I fear im loosing him.
He wakes up before me to play his game he plays right through his day and work and when we get home he plays till early hours of the morning.
Now I have confronted him and told him I feel like his time is less with me and we came to an agreement that we will spend 30min together evry night and dinner will have no phones allowed
This worked out great for a while. Untill I found out that he is talking to another gaming woman on a private chat where he tells her he loves her and misses her, my world crashed, Im shocked im hurt i feel angry and my trust has been broken.
I then decided to confront him about this and calmly explained how this behavour is not normal in any relatinship, However he fails to see my point and told me that it is just a role playing game and that hes continuing this role playing on the other platform to keep the game going...now he then said he didnt want to leave the game because he will hate me for it this game is what he uses as an excape route from our finance problem and stress, he said that if I cant except that his fantacy game and his fantacy wife on the game (YES he got married to this character in the game!) then im going to single handedly ruin our relationship. he said that i have insucurities that I have to work on that him saying those words of "my Love" and "I Miss you" means nothing its just make believe.
Im hurt I feel like hes Emotionaly withdrawing from me I cant reach him anymore. and somehow hes turned this into my fault making me feel guilty for feeling betrayed
Very Hurt and Confused