He is repeating history and it worries me

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Shiraz
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He is repeating history and it worries me

Okay, what I am about to say isn't the coolest thing to admit, but if you're a gamer, you know how easily it can happen. I am married in RL. My game of choice was Second Life. I spent almost 4 years staying out of trouble on that game... only played it on down times, did not get attached to anybody in the game, it was just a side thing that was low key. Then, I met somebody on the game (Don) who was also married in RL and only lived a couple hours away. My gaming time increased to two to three hours a night, plus probably four or five hours a day on the weekends. My own husband did not even notice or care -- that says something about our marriage --- and my SL boyfriend's wife did not seem to either. Anyways, one thing led to another and my SL boyfriend and I decided to see eachother in RL. We clicked amazingly. To make a long story short, Don started freaking out about the risk of seeing other and so we stopped and our relationship just became one over the phone. WIthout telling me, Don went back on SL and started screwing around. He finally confessed it to me about three or four weeks after he'd been on. I knew he was not getting sex at home so that was what the draw on Sl was for him. However it still bothered me. He had claimed he wanted to get his act together with his wife when he stopped seeing me. I did not think he'd be back in game. Not only that, he did not want to hang out with me in SL. Said it would tempt him to see me again in RL. This went on for a month or so. He was having sex with alot of people on SL plus making "friends" and playing card games with them on SL, etc. The end for me came when he told me that now he met somebody on SL he wanted to date one on one. Meanwhile, he has a wife and he still has me in RL??? This was too messed up for me. I told him he needs to quit spending time with strangers online and either spend time with me on SL or quit SL. Or I couldn't see him anymore. Needless to say, he chose SL. He's back on there, with yet another girlfriend, and his wife still has no clue. HE sneaks it behind her back in his office. Claims he is working. I know I am just the other woman, but I do care about this man, and it is so upsetting to see him repeating history. He claims he won't ever see this new woman in rl because she lives several states away and she says she is not intersted in a rl hook up. Hello? He and I used to say we did not want to hook up in RL too! AND People can buy plane tickets! Anyways, that is my story and that is why I am here. Meanwhile, I stopped playing SL altogether. Cannot even be on it because it reminds me of him and I, and what we once had. Is this a messed up story or what? See what gaming does to you?

Shiraz