So my boyfriend is 18 and weve been together for over two years. He told me a few months into our relationship that before we were dating he would spend all day, every day playing games, but chose to hide that from me in fear of being judged by me. Fast forward two years and he spends at least ten hours a day playing an online ps4 game. I work full time monday to friday and he doesnt. I know that all day im at work he sits around playing the same game, when i get home he continues to play the game non stop until we go to bed. Everyday. He spends more time each day talking to his friends online than me. I cant help but feel he is choosing the games over me.
I have told him how i feel and he says he will cut down on the amount he plays, however that never happens. He has warned me in the past that he expects to be playing games for the rest of his life, and this has me worrying that if its this bad now, it will only be worse in 10 years.
To make it worse, most of the time hes playing he wears a headset to communicate with his friends which leaves me feeling totally disconnected and disrespected. He says he can still hear me when I talk to him, but why would I want to talk when I know he will just cut me off to talk to his friends whom hes never even met.
Every day more and more things are happening that make me feel second place compared to his game. Just yesterday i got of work early and decided to surprise him, thinking he would be excited. I showed up at his house expecting at least a hug, but all he did was open the door after I knocked, and run right back to his game (Literally he ran back to the tv) cause he doing something important.
I know he still loves me, but its getting harder and harder for me to sit around doing nothing while he wastes his life away to a game.
Please help I wanna make things work but i just dont know how