I am so grateful for this community--I have just discovered OLGanon.org. I would love any advice/support for what to do about the effect that my husband's excessive gaming has on my four children. I just read the Letter to Spouses or Significiant Others Of Video Game Addicts where it recommends that we "begin making attempts to enjoy life without them. picturing ourselves as a single parent, even planning outings for ourselves (and children if [we] have them) without the gamer." I totally see the wisdom in this and have tried this a littlte in our family, BUT my oldest two children (14 years and 12 years) are much less inclined to join me for outings. My 12 year old son, expecially, would much rather stay home with his dad and game all day with him. I am so very concerned that he is now becoming just like my husband. He used to be such a delightful young boy...involved in many extra curriculars and just a pleasant, sweet kid. Now, he is just like my husband: grumpy, easily agitated, and utterly disinterested in any life experience outside of gaming. My 14 year old daughter is not as far gone, but she definitely places #1 priority on getting in her gaming time. It is almost the center of her life. How do I navigate this with these older two, who don't often want to go on outings with me? I feel like they are slipping away from me and becoming more and more like my husband. My anger levels fluctuate with my husband. If I am otherwise occupied in life-giving activities for myself or my kids, it doesn't destroy me as much, but when I am working day and night to run the household, while he sits on his rear end gaming 14+ hours a day it makes me irate. I frequently find myself saying in my head, or very quietly to myself, "I hate him! I can't stand him!!" Help!! What advice or experience can you offer me! Thank you in advance for your time!!