OK, not sure how to do this, I just joined. My hubby and I have 2 kids (3 and 5) and I have a step-son through him who is 11. Hubby does work weekdays, but feels he can spend the majority of his "downtime" in the basement playing games or watching YouTube of people playing games. This has left me to doing everything alone and being alone. I am a SAHM, but he is also self employed, so I run the office and do all of his paperwork and scheduling etc. I do all of the cleaning, shopping, and most of the cooking etc. We have had to work out a deal where he only has to spend 3 nights a week doing something with me when the kids go to bed, the other 5, he games. He does this at least 6-10 hours a day. Even the nights he is supposed to spend with me, he will go down at least 2-3 hours earlier to play something while i feed, clean, bathe kids etc. There are plenty of nights where that turns into the whole night, and I still don't even see him on our "date nights". He never wants to be intimate, talk, or even go out. I do most of the family outings alone. I do crack and yell at him and ask him if he thinks this is acceptable and he will dismiss or ignore me. His family has tried talking to him, but then he will proceed to ignore them for some time afterwards. He says he doesn't want to break up, but he refuses to compromise. He wont leave. I have no clue how to afford my famiky without him. He has said if I leave he will just work the bare minimum and give us nothing. I have even offered to keep being his office manager in lieu of asking for child support (like earning it, and still helping him because he can't work and run the office regardless). He says he's not addicted and that he could be doing anything, even looking at a wall, but that its there, so he does it. He seems to have no shame or guilt for all the extra work he puts on me, or the neglect of me and the kids. I dont really know what I am asking here... does anyone understand or have advice?