My husband and I have been together for 7 years. We both are divorced from previous marriages, and each have 2 kids from those marriages. We don’t have any together.
He began gaming about 4 years ago. Never would I have thought it would get this bad. He spends 18 hrs a day playing Destiny. He completely ignores me and all four kids. I am left to do all housework, work full time and take care of the kids. He owns his own business, so there are many days he just decides not to work and stays home to play. I am so incredibly lonely. Anytime I ask him to spend time with me it turns into a HUGE fight, and usually ends up with him telling me to get out of his house. He tells me I’m selfish and calls me names like b****, c*nt, etc because I ask him to spend time with me. He says I don’t care about him enough to let him do what he likes to do. He said he doesn’t want to do anything else, and will not compromise. He is even refusing sex from me now. He won’t come to bed until 4 am and then gets up at 8-9 am to play. I recently had hip surgery and need his help because I can’t walk. He swore he would help me with everything. But if I ask for an ice pack for pain or for a snack, or need something, it literally takes him 2-3 hrs to come help me. The kids are suffering and I am suffering. I feel like I can’t leave him because my 2 kids and his 2 kids have grown up together, and if we divorce, they will never see his kids again, which makes me feel terrible. He takes all of his aggression out on me and I don’t know what to do anymore. He won’t even have any conversation about anything anymore because he is too busy on his games. He treats his online friends better than his family. I am tired of crying myself to sleep. I don’t know what to do. He refuses any therapy or help. I’ve tried living life without him and going about my day but I’m getting to a point that I am so lonely. I can’t do this anymore. Any suggestions?