I don't know how to deal with everything anymore. My husband(25) and I(25) got married this january. We have an adorable 6 month old boy. Before I gave birth he promised me a lot of things. He promised he's going to work (he's unemployed) he promised me he's not going to use his computer much and he promised he'd take care of us.
Fast forward to now, he hasn't gotten a job (uses the corona virus as an excuse) he games excessively to the point where we're like living in 2 different time zones. He's asleep during the day and awake at night. I take care of my son alone in the morning and even at night. He couldn't leave his game to tend for my son when I am asleep. We co-sleep and I am a very light sleeper, one small movement wakes me up. Knowing this my husband gets even more free game time. Even when I'm so tired I call out to him to atleast hold my son and put him to sleep. Everytime I do he says he can't leave the game instantly because they're in a team game.
Gaming is all he does, he doesn't help with the chores and gets mad when I ask for a little money (he gets money from the government for unemployment) I am on a student visa so I don't get any of the benefits their government has to offer. We're in a house with my siblings. One room for us (basically his gaming equipment is inside the room with us.) he doesn't pay the rent and food and utilities.
I started a new semester of school last week. We talked about it prior, he told me not to worry. Now he still does what he does everytime. He's asleep when I have school in the morning so that leaves me with the baby while online schooling. I wake him up but he gets mad. The baby wakes him up from crying he gets mad as well.
I can't ask him to leave because I'm afraid he's going to do something harmful to himself like he says he does. He threatens to leave us too whenever I complain or ask him to do stuff.
I feel like lately he's been talking a lot to this gamer girl as well too.
I want to tell on him to his family but I'm afraid it'll just get worse. I want my family complete. I want all the promises he made when we got married and when I gave birth. I think its all wishful thinking now.