I'm alone in my marr5

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I'm alone in my marr5

Hi, I'm new to the site. My husband is addicted to gaming. I'm ready to give up! Nothing I have done haso helped & he can't admit to being addicted. It's been going on for years & I don't know what to do!

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Welcome to Olganon !

Welcome to Olganon !

Your experience is not unusual that despite your efforts, you cannot change him. We cannot control our loved ones addiction. When we come to finally realise that is the case, and accept it, we can start to let go of trying to control them or try to fix them and get some peace back in our lives.

Things can get better for you if you work on your recovery from this and detach from his choices, which you cannot control. The sticky posts on both spouses forums talk about things like detaching with love, taking care of yourself, stopping enabling their addiction, boundaries. Some spouses attend al-anon or nar-anon to get support face to face on how to take care of yourself etc. You could seek professional counselling about what your next steps in your life may be no you have accepted that his addiction is not going away easily.

There is plenty of inspiration and experience in the older posts by spouses which I recommend you keep coming back to read.

One of our ex-gamer members Lisa3333 shared that she also recovered from drugs and alcohol before going in very deep into gaming addiction. Here is a recent post by her http://www.olganon.org/comment/264228#comment-264228

Many of the gaming addicts do use 12 step for recovery; but if he is not accepting he has a problem, then he will not want to do it. He is not suffering enough consequences to make him concerned perhaps. Lisa leads two online meetings a week for gaming addicts.

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