I bet you haven't heard this one before - first time poster in this sort of forum and I'm not sure if I'm overacting. I mean, I don't think I am, but I'm hoping to get some other opinions.
My partner of 13 years has always been a gamer since we met. Usually WoW, but sometimes when he's bored of that it'll be something else, but always comes back to WoW. Being also in the IT industry and a nerd who casually gamed, I have a high tolerance level for gaming. He's always been good at being "just enough" normal and doing "just enough" of his resposibilities to make you have nothing to say if you complain he plays all the time.
He plays every single chance he gets, particularly in the current phase where a recent expansion for WoW was released. He's in an online chat with his online gaming friends and if he's not talking to them when he's at the computer, he's talking to them on his phone when we are out. Each time I walk by his computer screen, it's WoW on one screen and a gaming site on the other - even when he's "working from home". I couldn't tell you how many hours he plays. It's basically any time he's not doing his household chores, looking after our child, working or other necessary "life" stuff, so it could be anywhere from 3 to 10 hours a day.
He does seem to fulfil all his required life responsibilities and is a good father, so if I confront him, he tells me to "get lost, what you do want me to do, stare at the TV instead?". He's extremely defensive. He considers all other activities as boring, including with me, unless it's watching a TV show or movie... and he'll then go back and talk to his online friends about it. I guilt him into spending some time with his son and I - like, just "spending time" on "lame" things like taking a walk, but honestly it's like I've asked him to sacrifice his gaming arm the way he gets ****ed off and I'm sick of it.
I really don't know what to do and I'm not sure if he falls into the "addiction" category as he is careful not to neglect his responsibilities. It just feels like he just tries to get it out of the way so he can get back to what he really wants to do - play. It's NYE now and his parents have left and our son has gone to bed - he's back on WoW. No mention of celebrating NYE with me or anything.
I'd welcome any advice or thoughts! I'm just not sure.