My wife of 25 years 2 children 7 and 15 became addicted to 50 Shades of Grey and an alternate life Twitter play. It's been about 2-3 years and she has denied it over and over again. On 2/2/15 she stated she wanted a divorce. Yes I have been angry recently probably because of her constant non stop Twitter and chat room use. She even used her phone in one hand and her iPad in the other at times during family time and even what should be our personal time.
She has emotionally disconnected...she has taken to her RP partner as TL but still not physical but an emotional infidelity. Worlds like I love you referring me as her EX and just things that should be shared with me not an on line RP partner in private chats. Personal occasions and experiences are being shared and such...no denial they have exited RP and this is TL now for them.
she has written me off I believe to justify in her mind what she is doing is appropriate. She no longer wears her rings and refuses to speak to me about anything except the children or normal daily activities. She no longer feels a duty to me as her husband and partner and says she loves me but is no longer in love with me and feels empty. This has gone on for 2 months she refuses to admit the RP is a problem and refuses to give up her friends.
what do I do where do I go from here. 2 months is a long time and I am continuing to lose her .... This time in my own part since I am hurt and wondering if I need to leave. She is seeing a therapist for self esteem issues but I believe she is less than honest with the Internet problems.
You can't stop her from divorcing you but you don't have to make it easy. If you are willing to live with heroic integrity and put up with what she is doing her "relationship" will probably fizzle at some point. The gaming is another matter. That will continue until she realizes she has a problem and wants help. You have minor children. It is highly unlikely she would leave you and abandon your children to go be with this person who is probably in another part of the world. I don't know the laws where you live but in most US states a parent wanting to move the children away from the other parent would have to prove that move is in the best interest of the child. Wanting to be with someone she met in a video game wouldn' t qualify.
In this state I believe the parent can move out of state, laws the last time I checked varied by state. In Florida on the other hand the parent could not remove the children from the state without written consent. I will need to look into that.
Her feelings are thst there is "greener pastures" on the other side, not that she wants to leave for her role play friend but because she feels there is little to this life and wants more. As any professional would say, this is the problem of the Internet fantasy land..everything is perfect because it's not reality and is much more exciting than real life once fantasy becomes reality though more often than not it becomes just as bad as their current life or even worse. Real life has problems and tough work, stay in a role play life long enough and I guess you start to want that fairy tale life that does not exist.
Watch this video with your wife, it shows the true story of how SL (should be renamed Stupid Land) fantasy relationships don't work in real life. In an online fantasy world people only tell you what they want you to know, or what they want you to hear in order to make the relationship work. Take that same fantasy relationship into real life and you can no longer pretend, the fantasy part is gone. When people in real life meet up from this fantasy world they usually say things like what the heck was I thinking? Unfortunately as you'll see in this video so much has happened to ruin their real life relationships that it becomes a rude and painful awakening. I realize the pain you must be going through right now and I hope this video is a wake-up call for your wife. Life 2.0 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUwD7u7wwcY
Wow... Long video but I have seen the first 15 minutes. I am on break now but will watch it tonight. As far as her...I think I need to speak to my counselor on that. Whe I bring up her use of Twitter or her chat friends she becomes very defensive, at times angry both at myself and my 15 year old son. I don't know if she is ready to watch this with an open mind, she denies she has a problem.
That's definitely wise, but you can watch the video for yourself so you can have a realistic perspective of what's happening.