Sorry if I'm posting this in the wrong place, but I'm so happy that there is a place like this where I can just vent a little bit. I hope you don't mind.
So I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years now. We're quite youngish, myself being 19 - living in shared house with three other people and we're both studying at University..well at least I thought we both were. Here's my problem: he's putting LoL before anything else. I mean anything. He hasn't gone to Uni for at least 6 months, he hasn't made any attempts to go out and socialise with anyone except for my housemate (who also plays LoL) and it's been like a very slow realisation about how out of hand I feel like things are getting. He sits at his computer all day, in the same potition and doesn't move unless he absolutely needs to, like when he needs food or something, I'll just see him through the crack of his door sitting there playing LoL with my housemate.
My housemate has played LoL longer than my boyfriend, and he kind of introduced him to it. But before that, my boyfriend used to play WOW, or DOTA. He also plays Warhammer as a hobby, which my housemate has gotten into thanks to my boyfriend. They'll be talking to eachother on headsets even though they're under the same roof. Sometimes I feel like he talks to my housemate more than he talks to me. The two of them do nothing but play LoL, and when they're not doing that - they'll be talking about LoL or Warhammer. I am not interested in either, simply because I don't have the time or money to get invested..and neither does he, but he's made it so LoL or any other game he plays, takes 100% priortity over everything else.
It wasn't until I started reading some posts here that I began to notice the patterns. If I want to talk to him, I have to go downstairs and stand there to talk. Sometimes he wont even look at me. I find myself cooking meals for the two of us, only for him to eat it whilst sitting at his computer. Most of the time he isn't even present when I'm cooking in the kitchen. I could be doing anything - washing the dishes, putting clothes away, going out shopping and every time I go to say something to him - he'll be pre-occupied. I also hate when I ask him something and I get "sorry you we're distracting me" or "i was just about to get a kill" as if the game is taking prioraty over me. I'll ask him if he wants to go out to do something, and he'll say he's too tired or too busy..yet as soon as he's free he's on LoL. Sometimes we'll make plans, and he cancels them and goes to play LoL. Then he gets annoyed at me if I ask him to stop playing, or he'll be confused if I'm mad at him for not seeing him all day. I just don't understand it.
I just feel like I am like some kind of maid or person he keeps around for when he feels like being affectionate. He keeps telling me he's going to change, and that he's going to do something about Uni. He has done this so many times with different games. When he quit DOTA, he moved onto WOW. When he finished WOW, he moved to LoL. He tells me he loves me yet he doesn't seem to make any efforts to show it. Any money he gets goes on Warhammer, I can't even remember the last time I didn't pay for us to go out somewhere. It's just an endless cycle and I feel like I'm just stuck here in love with someone who wouldn't even noticed I had packed my bags and left, until his game had ended.
I'm reaching out for any thoughts, advice and questions.
Thank you - Chub