Hello-I just joined today. As I read thru the advice, I realized I have been detaching for several months. I am trying to tell myself that I am living as a single person but deep down I am hoping that I will get my old husband back. Someone who engages in conversations and is a part of the world around him instead of rushing back to his game in his downstairs man cave. I dont even know what to say to him anymore, his mind seems distant,
We have been married 27 years, this gaming started a couple years ago. He has withdrawn from soical outings, time with family and in general wants to decline any invites we have. I have started going to things without him, I love girls night out and am fortunate to have a great circle of family and friends. I dont make excuses for him anymore, several people are losing respect for him, myself included.
We are retiring in 2020 and I was looking forward to travel and fun times together after years of high stress jobs for each of us. I have a fear it will be all about "Destiny" PS4 for him. I think of divorce but still catch a glimpse of the fun, passionate guy I married.
If I am out with friends/family I am laughing and having fun but as soon as I am alone with him (of course he is attached to his game prob 50 hrs a week) I am miserable unless I am in the mood for quiet time. I love having grandkids here so that I am not lonely.
I want supportive companionship..........
Thanks for letting me vent!