My S.O. plays XBOX Live, multiplayer gaming 70 hours a week. It's insane. It has become a big problem in our relationship. I also grew up with an Alcoholic Father and Mother. I learned different coping mechanisms and defense to help shield myself from what was going on in my childhood. Our qualifier could be our S.O., wife, brother, sister, husband to why we are searching for answers on this forum yet, as many of you, I cannot. I see alot of people are in pain becasue the people that we love are ignoring the hell out of us and we can't stop it.
Most recently, I have been going to Alanon Meetings in my area. I tried going to beginner meetings and so far they are working. Please know, that these Alanon Meetings are about taking care of yourself, understanding that you cannot stop this addiction and how you can cope. Please understand, We did not Cause the addiction, we cannot Cure it and we certainly cannot Control it. Maybe my S.O. used the games as a coping mechanism as I traveled with my job. I was on the road ALOT! I could have done things differently in hindsight. But, I am plagued by the "isms" of Alcoholism and Addiction. I am only discovering this now, which makes me incredibly sad.
I spoke up today in an Alanon meeting about my qualifier for S.O. and it helped. . Alanon for me, really helps me to look at myself so I don't go completely nuts in my life. Try looking up Alanon Pod Casts too, these pod casts helped me to gather the courage to walk into these meetings to get help.
If you can't stand for something you'll fall for anything.