What do you do to get them to realize they are addicted to gaming?

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What do you do to get them to realize they are addicted to gaming?

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You can try to tell them but

You can try to tell them but if they are addicted they do not want to hear it. They would rather say black is white than agree with us about their problems All we can do is detach and not enable them, and start to change to have an awesome life without them.

They will only be ready to admit they have a problem when the consequences become painful enough to take notice

Keep coming back to read about how other spouses coped.

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Thank you Polga

Thank you Polga. I have learned that I cannot say anything about the game as it just backfires on me. I am really having a difficult time understanding it and dealing with the hurt feelings and sense of loss I feel. I don't want to be without him. We have a family. I just can't understand why he doesn't see what he is doing.

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Yes; it's beyond our logic

Yes; it's beyond our logic why they cannot see what is so very obvious to us. But they are under the hold of addiction. Their brain has been by-passed. They are not themselves; as if they are sick. 

Words by cdgoldilocks:

" Here is what I know about addicts, and I grew up with them in my home:

1. They CANNOT be reasoned with. You aren't even talking to your spouse when they are  gaming, but some dopamined-up version of them.

2. No matter how much you try to "understand" them, it won't matter. You CANNOT fix them, because you are NOT the problem, no matter how much the addict blames everyone else but themself (most likely you, the spouse)

3. You CANNOT enable them in ANY way. If you are doing ANYTHING that will allow them more game stop immediately. Don't run to the store for a gallon of milk, don't clean the house (unless they works to, then do YOUR fair share).

4. Nagging, threatening, yelling, physically removing gaming devices, etc does NOT work. An addict will do just about anything to get their "fix".

see http://www.olganon.org/comment/254644#comment-254644

INFO

Parent's online meeting THURSDAY 9pmEST/EDT click here

Online meetings gaming addicts click here

Spouses/SO's of addicts click here

Parents of addicts click here for advice

Help for video game addicts click here

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