Hello. I am new to the site and came across it searching on online gaming addiction. I have been married for 15 years to my wife who I still desperativly love. We have three great kids ages 15, 6 and 4. About a year ago my wife was introduced to the online game Vikings: War of Clans. Since then, she lives and breathes starring at an iPad (and sometimes multiple devices) playing this game. We had our normal marriage issues over the years, pick up some slack, help with this and that, etc. but things have deteriorated in the household to the point where the children wonder why mom is on an iPad all the time. Sadly, I must say that they go ignored quite a bit of the time. In this year she has picked up smoking heavily, spends an alarming amount of time at the lady's house next door (because it was her escape), and her behavior over that time has really decreased. She is distant, short fused, and basically acts like everyone is a burden. I recently discovered that she would spend between $200 and $400 a month on the game through iTunes. When I asked her about it, she said it was paying that neighbor back, which I confirmed to be not true. As I mentioned, her demeanor has changed so much that I can't believe it's the woman I've known for 19 years. The caring, "mother of the year" type has become cold and uncaring about anything. I've found out that she lies to people about any number of things, and has basically destroyed relationships with everybody she knows. My mom considered her a daughter, but is now crushed at how she thinks my wife no longer cares about her, even after all the help my parents have given us. The sad breaking point came recently when I discovered that she had been talking to people online, which was fine with me. Except she had developed a sexual relationship with someone in another state. She denied it when I first addressed it with her, but through a friend I found out it to be true because she would gloat to that friend. She thought it was disgusting what my wife was doing, so she told me. Eventually my wife confessed that there was something emotional, even to he point where the guy was going to fly here and see her. She claims she wised up and chose her family over him. And that was that. Then I find out a week ago that she now is talking to some guy in Las Vegas all the time. I saw a crazy number of cell phone minutes used in just a few days and addressed it. She said it was a friend from high school she talks to, which I knew it was a lie. Then it turned into its a friend from the game and it's innocent. Sadly, it's not so innocent. Now she's screaming she wants a divorce and has been miserable with me for all 19 years. I'm crushed. My life and my kids lives are being thrown upside down over a game and some guy. I can't get her to listen to anybody and she is convinced I am out to get her. I'm lost. She's living in a fantasy world won't wake up and look at reality. I'm torn up inside. I wish she had never found this game. It's ruined my life.
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