BIG wake up call!!!

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BIG wake up call!!!

So some of you know me as a long time member to OLGA and some of you don't well little back ground on me. I just recenly got married back in 2013 in Feb to the most wonderful woman i have ever been with besides my kids she is my EVERYTHING i love her so much. Well that almost came to a hault when she was starting to become unhappy about my gamming with WoW. I mean i wasn't a junkie with it i would get up go to the store spend time with her etc..But sometimes it would get in the way. But anyway one day she came up to me and said "Honey im not happy that you play WoW and its starting to hurt are marrage". Well thats all it took i have tried to quit in the past but it would only last 1-2 weeks im proud to say im coming up on my 2 months of NO GAMMING thats right I BEAT THE GAME I WON I FINISHED. (Cold turkey) Ya i know only way to do it. It was getting to the point that if i couldn't bot my char the game was stale boring its too reptitive. An yes i still get cravings to play but my will power is so much stronger. I think another thing that has helped me stop was i started working at Amazon 4 days a week Fri-Monday 10 hour shifts so it takes up alot of my free "Weekend time". Now i have a question for yall some will say no some will say maybe and some will say why not. My wife says i can buy a PS4 b/c then we both can play together and so can the kids play with dad might i add my kids are 10,7,4..2 boys and 1 girl. I can play console games b/c they end i just can't play games like "WoW" that have no ending whats yalls thoughts. Sorry for the rambling on -Moose- out.....

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WB Moose. I remember ya (had

WB Moose. I remember ya (had a different name then).

Just a thought...if you have young children, how about a game free home? Honestly if I had to do it over again I would just go game free in the house. At best it is a waste of time for them and at worst it can turn them into addicts or poor behaviour patterns.

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Moose wrote: My wife says i
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My wife says i can buy a PS4 b/c then we both can play together and so can the kids play with dad might i add my kids are 10,7,4..2 boys and 1 girl. I can play console games b/c they end i just can't play games like "WoW" that have no ending whats yalls thoughts. Sorry for the rambling on -Moose- out.....

Hi Moose,

It sounds like a happy ending, everyone gets to play the game and you all get to enjoy the game as a family. Who would not want that? The problem for me is: I am an addict and game and me do not go together. I can not stop once I started, and now I am back to square one. Sometimes I do not want to believe that I am a true addict until I tried to play again and then failed before I can accept who I am. I am an addict who is grateful for living a game-free life.

I can not make this decision for you because we are all different and only you would know that.

Hugs,

Maggie

It's good to have goals and dreams, but while you're waiting for things to change, waiting for promises to come to pass, don't be discontent with where you are. Learn to enjoy the season that you're in--Pastor Joel Osteen

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Tommi wrote: WB Moose. I
Tommi wrote:

WB Moose. I remember ya (had a different name then).

Just a thought...if you have young children, how about a game free home? Honestly if I had to do it over again I would just go game free in the house. At best it is a waste of time for them and at worst it can turn them into addicts or poor behaviour patterns.

Game free home is best. Why prime the pump for you kids' possible struggle with video game addiction?

Also, if you had "problematic play" - moderation is not advisable nor beneficial.

Andrew Doan MD PhD

My Videos: Internet gaming disorder is real & my story 

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I see both sides here plenty

I see both sides here

plenty of people can pick up a game and have a blast, and move on with their lives in a normal fashion, in the same way plenty of people can have a drink and move on with their lives, its only a problem for alcoholics.

But at the same time, if you were an alcoholic, would your wife keep alcohol in the house? Were taught to get over these problems we need to stop them from beginning, and if you have an addictive personality some games playing, even with the kids could be disasterous for your well being.

However, i'd like to think in the future i could sit down and have a game of wii bowling with my daughter without dragging up my issues, but until i can know for a fact i have those issues under as much control as humanly possible, and i have a fall back like your wife to keep an eye and ensure it doesnt develop further, i couldnt even consider it

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Thank you for all the

Thank you for all the feedback about the system. I have made a desicion and i think yall will be pretty happy. I desided NOT to get a gaming system instead i think im gonna pick up running,an some P90X i have dropped from 290 to 265 working this new job its time to get in shape..I walk about 20-30 miles a day at work so should be good for me. -Moose- Out

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Lol..congrats on the p90x..I

Lol..congrats on the p90x..I did p90x for a week and I could barely walk. People kept asking me what was wrong with my legs cuz I was walking funny like a duck lol. It is really hard core lol.

It's good to have goals and dreams, but while you're waiting for things to change, waiting for promises to come to pass, don't be discontent with where you are. Learn to enjoy the season that you're in--Pastor Joel Osteen

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ryu8946 wrote: But at the
ryu8946 wrote:

But at the same time, if you were an alcoholic, would your wife keep alcohol in the house?

Yes.

If you are keeping it in the home to serve your friends or guests. Other people still have a right to a good time, whether you are an alcoholic or not, your obligation is to determine whether keeping the substance in the home will be a problem for you and your family.

It's based on the motive of the thing; what your reasons for having the object in the first place are, so if you are keeping alcohol in the house 'just because' they could become a problem in the future. It leaves too much room for excuses by the addict mind. However, if you keep a glass of sherry or something at home in order to be an accomodating host, then that is fine, the motive is to serve, not to indulge your own desires.

The same applies to gaming.

If it is a problem for you to be around games, or to have people playing games and to hear the music or noise, then I suggest removing them from the environment. I have the similar issues I don't like being around videogames.

However, that does not stop me from going to places where videogames are around (My hobby shop) and playing a tabletop board game with my friends. My focus -- my priorities -- are different. I am not there to indulge my addictive behavior, I am there to enjoy a social event with some fellow geeks.

Now if I was hosting a party and I new some people would come over and want to play videogames, I might set up a seperate location where they could play, simply to be a good host. I'm not certain how we as a game-addict community feel or recommend regarding such a situation, but it does have merit.

MY POINT IS!! That you need to know your motives before you make a decision. Are you an addict who is deriving some secret pleasure by playing on the PS4 with the family? Or do you simply have an unhealthy obsession that you need to moderate, with time and perhaps therapy?

I can't diagnose. Even if I could. You have to make the decision for yourself.

I hope that something out of my own rambling will help you as you progress. Good luck.

Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me to be realistic about the challenge I'm facing and to take good care of myself. If you need help PM me! I will gladly offer you whatever aid I can.

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