A minor setback

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gamechick1988
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A minor setback

I had a minor set back yesterday. I thought it was a good idea to go out of the house so I could get my mind of things. So I decided to meet up with some people that I went to college with. I've still got contact with them but i can't call them really friends. So we went to a local pub and were talking about things. So I've told them that I was dealing with my addicition and they just didn't understand the fact that gaming can be addicting. So I've dropped the topic but they started to talk about games, consoles, wow and it started to **** me off. So I asked to talk about somethin' else besides that but it just got worse. I left but when I got home, the anger just came out.... I smashed a few things, knocked a hole in my wall. I'm glad I didn't game, but it made me so angry and sad that people can't understand what it is to go through something like this

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Sorry to hear that your

Sorry to hear that your getting out (which is a positive step to get away form gaming) didn't meet with understanding.

but remember : a day without gaming is a GOOD day -------> you had a good day

even if it doesn't feel like it

keep up the good work - and you did a good thing by posting it too (((hugs)))

If plan A didn't work ...the alphabet has 25 more letters ----> do NOT give up

Luke 18:27 - And he said, The things which are impossible with men are possible with God. (surrender)

Any person can fight the battles of just one day. It is only when we add the burdens of yesterday and tomorrow that we break down. It is not the experience of today that drives people mad - it is the remorse of bitterness for something that happened yesterday, and the dread of what tomorrow may bring.
Let us, therefore, live one day at a time! A day without giving in to our addiction is A GOOD DAY !!!

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Hi! Sorry you had to

Hi!

Sorry you had to discover this the hard way. People who are not addicts just do not have any clue at all. I had to learn this with my alcohol addiction many years ago. In fact I had to make up different stories to explain why I was not drinking because 'earthlings' would never understand.

Its a little easier with gaming but not any different.

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Hugs, GC.  As you just

Hugs, GC. As you just discovered, and as Tommi said, non-addicts don't seem to have any capacity to understand what an addict like me means when I say that I'm addicted to something. I've also found that not all addicts understand what I mean when I say that I'm addicted to gaming, so it's a topic that I have to be really careful with.

I'm really sorry that this bunch of people decided that the best way to handle your announcement was to start talking about games...that was extremely rude at best, and I think that you're probably right to say that you can't really call them friends. One of my best friends knows a bit about what I'm going through, and although he definitely doesn't "get it" (since he's not an addict), he's still willing to support me in the ways that I've asked him to simply because he knows that it's important to me.

This might sound really weird, but I agree with what Sunny said enough to say it again. You didn't game, so it was a good day. It might not have all gone the way you wanted it to (and kudos for trying to get out of the house), but as I've had to learn, the only way a day can be bad is if I relapse. Some days are good days in which I get the bonus of accomplishing certain tasks that I wanted to do, other days are good days without any bonus at all. I had a really hard time accepting the fact that both types of days are good days, but it was really helpful for me to see it that way. Keep on having a good day...just for today.

When you're going through hell...keep going. --Winston Churchill There is no pit so deep that God is not deeper still --Corrie ten Boom

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Big HUGS! even my very close

Big HUGS! even my very close AA friends have no idea about gaming as an addiction.

Some of my family (who are currently gaming addicts) think I'm being over-reactive.

But we know how devasting this can be.

Don't worry about the anger, sometimes it's better to blow off steam than start gaming again. My sister did a number on my face the other day, I was angry enough to break some dishes. But didn't. I wanted to though.

Keep coming back. We understand like no one else does. Hugs

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ive had this problem with

ive had this problem with friends who talked about games and relapsed because of it befor i started 12 steps , i go out with friends they say hey theres nothing to do wanna go hit the lan center and play a few team games , id say i cant im tryin to quit they were like sheesh quit being a party pooper and come play for a few hours thats all no biggy , then we ended up spending 6-7 hours playing counter strike - starcraft dota wow any thing and come home , i remmber when i opend the game instantly my depression at the time went away and i felt sooo happy that hooked me up and i started playing not knowing i will lose anoter 2 years of my life and uni etc ... .so my advice is , if they dont understand u dont go out with them cause a day alone is far better then a relapse imo .

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I'm happy that I didn't pick

I'm happy that I didn't pick up my controller that day. And it's like you guys say : it's still a day without gaming. And actually I'm glad it happend, cause it made me realise I don't have friends. I thought they were there for me but they aren't so now I know that it's better to stay away from them. And on the other hand I can't pick up a controller.. I've punched a hole in the wall that ended up in a hand that's broken in few places and 3 fingers broken... I don't like the fact that I broke my hand but it kinda gives me a boost to keep goin' without gaming now that I actually can't relapse

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Ouch. Maybe you've stumbled

Ouch. Maybe you've stumbled upon a new recovery method. But I think I'll save my hand until I tried some other things first ;)

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