life after gaming

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modelcars87
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life after gaming

just wondered what everyone is doing after gaming?

 

any new hobbies, etc?

modelcars87
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used to obsessively play

used to obsessively play video games to cope with my anxiety issues. just quit at 26 (28 now). addressing my anxiety issues helped me quit. don't play or anything anymore. quit a lot of other habits as well like drinking, overeating, etc. just want to emphasize how important it is to overcome the underlying issues. remember, gaming is NOT the problem! addressing the underlying issue is. anxiety, depression, etc. most people addicted to games have one or the other. both can be cured and recovered from.

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World of possibilities

I am only six weeks off the games, and I was fairly busy before, so I haven't picked up much in the way of new activities because I don't really need them. However, I am devoting more time to the activities I had before, and in the early stages of thinking about kicking off some new ones. Most of my life changes revolving around new activities have happened since I gave up drinking several years ago. But I also gave up gaming about the same time (that only lasted a couple of years however) and that gave me lots of time and energy to get into many (to me) exciting and rewarding activities. It's been great. I feel like I am really living, and not just existing. (And now I'm hoping to get even more alive by kicking games out of my life once again.)

I think it's a good idea to pick some fun stuff to do to fill the time you used to spend gaming. This fun stuff may be something that kind of scared you. Like, say, what you really want to do is be in a band. It's anxiety-producing to get up in front of people and perform, however, so you just push that ambition to the side and bury yourself in a game. That goes on for a while and you find yourself at Olga. (This is kind of my life story.)

Now might be a good time to resurrect that old dream and come up with a reasonable, workable plan for making your dream come to life. Say, you'll check the classified ads for people looking for a singer or guitar player or drummer or whatever you do. Or you'll go to an open mic and at least think about getting up and doing a couple of songs. Once you start down a path like this, it opens up more paths, and you get some positive reinforcement and, next thing you know, you are doing something you once figured was beyond your ability to even dream about. That is a truly marvelous feeling. Way better than any game can give you.

McPhee says, give it a try. What do you really like doing? Something you were afraid to try? Can you come up with a half-decent plan for doing it? What's the first step? Try taking it.

I am about 6 1/2 weeks off gaming and have no plans to game today. Thanks for your help with that.

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seems like i have lost

seems like i have lost interest in things i used to do

 

used to love building models

don't seem to enjoy it anymore

dont really have anything that interests me now

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That's a puzzle

Hey, Modelcars87. I'm not sure what to make of the fact that you don't enjoy stuff you used to. I wish I had a masterful solution for you, but I'm really not an expert on this stuf. It does occur to me that you may want to dig deeper to figure out why you don't like something you used to, and what else you might like instead. I have often found that I am imposing some kind of self-created limitation when I am bored or uninterested, despite being apparently free to do whatever I want. Like, for instance, I'll think, "I can't do that activity, becuase of (whatever.)" In reality, though, "whatever" is not actually a real obstacle. It's just something I've imagined, often by assuming that something will be too hard, that I don't have the resources or talent or permission to do it.

Example of this is my long struggle with credit card debt. I worked for several years unsuccessfully, trying a variety of approaches, to get a big load of credit card debt paid off. Servicing this debt was eating up a large part of my income and kept me from doing all kinds of things I wanted, besides forcing me to constantly juggle payments and pinch pennies. I owned a house that I knew had a good bit of equity in it, but I'd decided I wouldn't sell the house to get that money until my youngest child was out of high school. Then, through a series of events, I decided to no longer rule out selling the house. Result: I sold it quickly, easily and for much more than I needed to settle all my debts. The logjam breaker was abandoning this self-imposed limitation on moving before my youngest was out of high school. (Don't get me wrong; I wish I hadn't had to move, but I'm glad I did because being debt-free has been great and I hope I can keep it up.)

So what I'm suggesting is that you look deeper into why you're not interest in model building or anything else that occurs to you that might be enjoyable. You may be thinking, "I'm not any good at this. I should leave it to people who are better." Or you could be thinking you can't afford it, or you don't have the time to do it right, or a whole range of other possibilities.

I can't very well tell you what you're thinking, but I encourage you to look for negative thoughts that are causing you to have difficulty finding an enjoyable activity. You may want to give those self-limiting thoughts the boot, or at least try something different.

Meanwhile, congrats on putting down the games. That is a real accomplishment, as many people here can tell you.

I'm one of them, now a little over 6 1/2 weeks game-less and not planning to game today.

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Just working out, it seems

Just working out, it seems like i don't enjoy things like watching movies, or other entertainment like i used too. Try going out exploring new places?

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