Strippers and a lesson about love.

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Strippers and a lesson about love.

Hi everyone, day 3. I have been out all week-end. Easy one for a start. The hardest part is coming because the construction workers vacation are over. I fear relapse this week, but not today.

So one of my friends had his bachelor party yesterday, and as all bachelor parties should end, we went to a (my english is rusty) gentleman's club ;) We got in, and that engineer friend pays for all the group. The first thing I see is a little blonde, half naked of course, with a big smile, just like the cat in Alice in wonderland. Asking her when she would dance and having small talks I had an interest in that person, for her beautiful smile of course.

After her public dance she came back to see if I was into hiring her for professional work. And I did. Just a note here, I never paid for a lap dance in my life this was my first time, and of course, I let her know. Who knows, I might get more for my money as a new customer :P

So she brought me in this awkward 2x2 closet with no door or curtain and explained the terms of our professional transaction. A deal was even closed with a handshake, how casual.

At that moment, the 2x2 cubicle, the world didn't matter any more. It was only her and I. You work so hard to have the privilege to be allowed in the intimacy of people, but for those 6 minutes she brought me into her fantasy world.

For years I've been living in fantasy world I was building, grinding just like Mrs. Starr did. The fantasy you love and you would fight to protect. Lie, cheat, scream, get angry. But as the computer screen goes black you come back to the real world and nothing as moved, everything is where it was left. Untouched.

My love, and our love should have more meaning and be more useful, giving to those who care about us. Being in love with these games, this thing that felt sooo good, it's poison. "Remember, this isn't the killing house anymore, this is real life" This isn't a fantasy world, and I don't want to live in lies anymore.

Facing what consumes you, is the only way to be free - Hatebreed

So yea, I fell in love with a stripper for 6 minutes.
 

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Day 4

Day four guys,

 

I decided to make this thread my own official recovery gamer journal. This is day four. I discovered something great, the next big thing in marketing and applications. It's called Periscope, a live-stream app for iphone and Androids. I'll spend a bit of time on that instead of gaming. Hope it ain't too addictive.

 

I will not game today. Good night people.

Facing what consumes you, is the only way to be free. -Hatebreed

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Day 5

Meaby it was not the best idea of all time, but meanwhile I am on a no game diet, I also cut sugar from it. Experienced a bit of dizziness today and thought about gaming, fortunately I can blame it on low sugar.

Day 5 without gaming, Iam currently on a web project with some partners. Since I have much more time, I can now allow a few hours a day to this development idea.
This is exactly why I joined OLGA, few days in and already I see immediate impact, incredible. I must be aware of the evil waiting for me on the path of the recovering gamer.

I also gave a thought about step 2 which I am at right now. I like the thought of OLGA as a whole as a superior power and can hold on to the love of the people here and around me for support. I think i'll try meditation or yoga someday soon.

Be strong.

I will not game today.

Facing what consumes you, is the only way to be free. -Hatebreed

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This is great stuff, thanks

This is great stuff, thanks for sharing =)

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Day 6

Almost a week now. I opened steam right at this moment, but it is to uninstall all the games from my computer. Spring cleaning in a sense.

I feel good but I also feel an urge to play. I hope it will leave me someday.

But I will not play today.

Facing what consumes you, is the only way to be free. -Hatebreed

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Day 7

WHat? One week already? Game freh. That's right folks. NO games for a week, no plan on gaming tonight either.

Much love.

I will not play today.

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you're doing great =)

you're doing great =)

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Day 8

I just thought about not posting something today, but then I had the following reflection:

I didn't feel the need to post, thinking that I'm able to do this on my own. But that's not true, I can't because I'm powerless. And If I don't post anything today, tommorow, the day after, It would only mean that I am giving up... again.

I am a recovering gamer, but to recover I must take the decision to be happy and apply what i learned everyday. I can't let a day pass by, because the next i'll learn is the meaning of the word "relapse".

I will not game today.

Facing what consumes you, is the only way to be free. -Hatebreed

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Day 8 and a quarter - Day 9

It's 4 pm now, thought about gaming while in bed and couldn't sleep. Waiting for the cyclobenzaprine to kick in. It's not mine, but my girlfriend's.

I rarely take medecine, even aspirine or advil, because pain reminds me that i'm alive. No thats a lie I just told you.

I'll just say like Louis C.K.: I have a lot of believes, and I live by none of them.

Good night, if it ever comes.

I will not game today, cause I'll sleep all day.

Facing what consumes you, is the only way to be free. -Hatebreed

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Day 10

Yeeeee double digits.

Thats all i'll say today.

Ohhhh, and I will not play. XD

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Day 11

Not gaming, that is the decision I take everyday. I have not yet felt the stress or other physical effects of withdrawal related to gaming, Meaby night 8 insomnia was a withdrawal effet I don'T know.

I will not play today.

Much love

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Happy to see ur staying game

Happy to see ur staying game-free =)

Yes we are powerless and it's important to remember. Sometimes when life feels great being game-free, we forget that fact

See u soon

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Day 14

I missed a few days, but still game free after two weeks.

Been a bit rude to people I love, don't wanna blame it on withdrawal, I am responsible for how I am with others.

Still, I will not game today.

Facing what consumes you, is the only way to be free. -Hatebreed

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Keep going! :)

Keep going! :)

Andrew P. Doan, MPH, MD, PhD

My Gaming Addiction Videos on YouTube: YouTube.com/@DrAndrewDoan

*The views expressed are of the author's and do not necessarily reflect the official policy of the U.S. Navy, DHA or Department of Defense.

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Day 17

Still doing well, even though I quit gaming on a single thought.

I heard that it takes 21 days to develop a habit. I hope that after 21 days, it will be easier not to game, or think about gaming.

I will not game today.

Facing what consumes you, is the only way to be free. -Hatebreed

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Day 19

Today I reread the twelve steps for recovery and I have made a decision.

I have stopped playing to free more time for projects and family time. So I have decided to "turn my will and my life over to the care of" OLGA as a whole, personified and unpersonified success and to God as explained by Spinoza.

"There is no shortage of success. Success is important. Success is my duty." -Grant Cardone

As of today I enter the third step.

I will not game today, i've got too much to achieve.

Facing what consumes you, is the only way to be free. -Hatebreed

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Day 20

I have started to read "The 10X Rule" by Grant Cardone a few days ago. It is really inspiring and focus on hard work.

The 6th chapter is "Assume control for everything" and since july 31st I have control of my life back and it feels great.

I will not game today.

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Thank you

Thank you for the kind words Dr. Doan. It means alot to me. I have watched your videos and it gives me hope, and hopefully the addiction will be regognized as one in many countries.

Facing what consumes you, is the only way to be free. -Hatebreed

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Day 21 - The habit myth

An old saying goes on like this: "It takes 21 days to form a habit".

On this day I had no relapse, and except for a few thoughts about games, I don't feel de urge to play like I used to.

I'm starting a bachelor in engineering in two weeks, and my current employer offered me to pay my tuiton and to keep me part time. I could not have asked for better at this time in my life. I have waited, but now I take action, everyday.

Everyday I make decisions, and one of them is to decide not to play games. I will now dedicate my life to action, and clicking on mouse buttons aren't getting me anywhere.

Thank you everyone, you are so  kind and generous of yourself and of your time. Thank you Wazzapp, Dr. Doan, Orchid, Real Name, Polga, Josef, and to everyone that were so supportive. This is not goodbye, but I feel amazing even so early in the process of being game free.

Thank you OLGA.

I will not play today

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Cheering you on!

Cheering you on!

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Day 24

Almost 30 days game free. Today I'm going to the beach a bit to read on business and to be with friends. On week-ends I want to be all-in in my relationships.

The one thing that helped me stay focused to be game free till now is the new reward I focus on. No more gaining exp in games, i'm on a new quest for success in life. I have a goal and reviewing my finances to make it happen. The journey to 1M$.

This can seem extravagant, but it's not. So big i'll have to work but ass off to to it.

But the first decision I made today was:

I will not game today.

Facing what consumes you, is the only way to be free. -Hatebreed

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Day 30

http://www.olganon.org/sites/default/files/images/30days.jpg

So, i'm 30 days clean. Hurray

I will not game to day. :D

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Day 42

I'm still alive and well. Just moved to Montreal 2 weeks ago and started a degree in Construction engineering. Time goes by fast now that I stopped playing games. I do still struggle with internet and social media use.

42 days in without any relapse it does feel good :) I gave my steam acount to some friend (150+ games) I was tipsy a bit, so it was easier to let go of my account.
I also gave my magic the gathering cards to my cousin.

I will not game today.

Facing what consumes you, is the only way to be free. -Hatebreed

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What a fantastic opportunity

What a fantastic opportunity you have with your  new studies. Have a wonderful time.

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Day 53

Almost two months sober (in terms of gaming) and this part of my life now feel anew and awesome. I still struggle with mobile phone and social media use. I hope I can differ this attention somewhere else, but it's hard.

I never said it would be easy, I only said it would be worth it. -Mae West (or someone else meaby)

I will not game today

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Day 60

So, I'm 60 days in.

Game free.

I left my girlfriend last friday, It's gonna be hard this week...

I will not game today.

Facing what consumes you, is the only way to be free. -Hatebreed

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Day 75

I have no more games installed on my pc. Good thing since today would have been a perfect day for a relapse. I'll just take deep breath here, have a glass of water, **** it i'll go take a walk and grab some wine.

I will not game today.

Facing what consumes you, is the only way to be free. -Hatebreed

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