Being Humiliated

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Being Humiliated

Being humiliated is not the same as having humility.

We have all suffered humiliation. Perhaps a spouse ridiculed us in public or a parent's disorderly conduct shamed us in front of our friends. Perhaps a boss criticized us in front of co-workers.

However, we could have refused to let our egos be injured. Had we then the tools we have now, we could have felt compassion for the perpetrator. No healthy person heaps injury of any kind on another struggling soul. The program taught us this.

We have learned about true humility. To be humble is to surrender, to give up trying to change people or circumstances, to give up trying to force our will upon others. Humility is being quiet, being at rest, and being confident that God is present in every situation. Humility is being at peace, always.

No one can humiliate me today unless I accept that condition.

You are reading from the book:A Life of My Own by Karen Casey

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Hugs Pat!

Hugs Pat!

"Take what you need and leave the rest." I got nothing but moments to live.

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Thank you. Thanks for the

Thank you. Thanks for the phonecall 1-1 emergency meeting. I needed that. Olga love and gratitude.

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Big big hugs BBH!

Big big hugs BBH!

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to BBH: The friendship that

to BBH: The friendship that can end, was never real.~ Saint Jerome

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In order to addmit that our

In order to addmit that our addiciton humiliated us, we had to have some humility.

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Patria wrote: No healthy
Patria wrote:

No healthy person heaps injury of any kind on another struggling soul.

Took me a long time for that to sink in. I'm glad I can recognize an unhealthy person now and know when to remove myself from the situation or abuse. I'm learning to respect and value myself.Thanks of for sharing this Patria.

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mommy3 wrote: Patria
mommy3 wrote:
Patria wrote:

No healthy person heaps injury of any kind on another struggling soul.

Took me a long time for that to sink in. I'm glad I can recognize an unhealthy person now and know when to remove myself from the situation or abuse. I'm learning to respect and value myself.Thanks of for sharing this Patria.

Beautiful comment Mommy. Thank you.

I often struggle in dealing with those types of situations. And wonder how to act.

Most of the time for me it's not really an abusive situation, but when I'm sharing my thoughts and dealing with someone who disagrees with a point I'm trying to make. I feel like something is wrong with me or my ideas.

But if I find someone later who listens with empathy, it feels like a differen't discussion altogether. I feel energized as a result.

I really wish to be that kind of person that makes others feel that way.

Lovely topic Patria.

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mommy3 wrote: Patria
mommy3 wrote:
Patria wrote:

No healthy person heaps injury of any kind on another struggling soul.

Took me a long time for that to sink in. I'm glad I can recognize an unhealthy person now and know when to remove myself from the situation or abuse. I'm learning to respect and value myself.Thanks of for sharing this Patria.

And this is why its finally time for me to let go of my wife. As great as it is that she's stayed sober 5 years, she's desperately sick. I am guilty of doing this to her as well, pats quote. I have to stop trying to be her higher power, stop trying to save her from her self. My ego made me think I gulf save her. I was wrong. Go in peace.

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The word humility might

The word humility might have a negative connotation for some of us, a connection to humiliation or weakness, neither of which we are seeking, of course. The word for me means self-honesty and being right-sized. With greater honesty, my bloated ego is deflated and my self-esteem is raised to realistic proportions. The key is realism through thorough honesty about myself.

Most of us have suffered in the department of being right-sized. We have had large grandiose egos coupled with bottom-dwelling self-worth and self-loathing. One descriptive phrase is "an ego-maniac with low self-esteem." Another is "the piece of dung that the whole world revolves around." We have been desperately in need of an honest reevaluation and new self-image. Our inventory of defects and assets will have helped us move in the right direction. With time and persistence in working the steps, we will grow into a healthy mature self-image, with love and acceptance for ourselves.

What you feed grows, and what you starve withers away.

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