Being Right

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Patria
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Being Right

BEING RIGHT - Author known to the Creator - Recovery is not about being right; it's about allowing ourselves to be who we are and accepting others as they are. ** That concept can be difficult for many of us if we have lived in systems that functioned on the "right-wrong" justice scale. The person who was right was okay; the person who was wrong was shamed. All value and worth may have depended on being right; to be wrong meant annihilation of self and self-esteem. **

In recovery, we are learning how to strive for love in our relationships, not superiority. Yes, we may need to make decisions about people's behaviors from time to time. If someone is hurting us, we need to stand up for ourselves. We have a responsibility to set boundaries and take care of ourselves. But we do not need to justify taking care of ourselves by condemning someone else. We can avoid the trap of focusing on others instead of ourselves. ** In recovery, we are learning that what we do needs to be 'right' only for us. What others do is their business and needs to be right only for them. It's tempting to rest in the superiority of being right and in analyzing other people's motives and actions, but it's more rewarding to look deeper...

Today, I will remember that I don't have to hide behind being right. I don't have to justify what I want and need with saying something is 'right' or 'wrong.' I can let myself be who I am...and that's enough..loves :--)x