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Monday, October 14, 2013
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go

Controlling Versus Trust

There was a time in my life when I felt so afraid of and overwhelmed by the very act of living that I actually wanted to make out a schedule for each day of my life for the next five years. I wanted to include all the chores I had to do, when I would do them, even when I would schedule relaxation. I wanted to get some order into what felt overwhelming. I wanted to feel like I was in control.

Controlling is a direct response to our fear, panic, and sense of helplessness. It is a direct response to feeling overwhelmed, and to distrust.

We may not trust ourselves, our Higher Power, the Plan, the Universe, or the process of life. Instead of trusting, we revert to control.

We can approach this need to control by dealing with our fear. We deal with fear by trusting - ourselves, our Higher Power, the love and support of the Universe, the Plan, and this process we call life and recovery.

We can trust that when things don't work out the way we want, God has something better planned.

We can trust ourselves to get where we need to go, say what we need to say, do what we need to do, know what we need to know, be who we need to be, and become all we can become, when we are intended to do that, when we are ready, and when the time is right.

We can trust our Higher Power and the Universe to give us all the direction we need.

We can trust ourselves to listen, and respond, accordingly.

We can trust that all we need on this journey shall come to us. We will not get all we need for the entire journey today. We shall receive today's supplies today, and tomorrow's supplies tomorrow. We were never intended to carry supplies for the entire journey. The burden would be too heavy, and the way was intended to be light.

Trust in yourself. We do not have to plan, control, and schedule all things. The schedule and plan have been written. All we need to do is show up.

The way will become clear and the supplies will be amply and clearly provided, one day at a time.

Trust, my friend, in today.

Today, I will trust that I will receive all I need to get me through today. I will trust that the same shall happen tomorrow.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie (c)1990, Hazelden Foundation.

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I love this book!

I love this book!

It's good to have goals and dreams, but while you're waiting for things to change, waiting for promises to come to pass, don't be discontent with where you are. Learn to enjoy the season that you're in--Pastor Joel Osteen

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This is great, thanks

This is great, thanks Patria!

I still couldn't get the book but I am working on it.

"The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past. You can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches." "The first step toward change is acceptance." "Once you accept yourself, you open the door to change. That's all you have to do." "Change is not something you do, it's something you allow."- Will Garcia

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Patria wrote: I wanted to
Patria wrote:

I wanted to include all the chores I had to do, when I would do them, even when I would schedule relaxation. I wanted to get some order into what felt overwhelming.

This made me laugh, I actually do have personal interest or relaxation things, and even things like "eat" and "sleep" on my To-Do list. Lmao. It's my attempt to keep up with everything that I need to and also want to do, even though it still often doesn't work for me. If I feel overwhelmed by a To-Do list, I usually just shut down and won't do anything on the list at all. I will spend 5 hours looking up stuff I don't need on eBay instead, or something similar :P No list at all though is also bad for me; not because I want control, just because I'll forget what I need to do. If I keep it down to a manageble size though, I can get more accomplished :) Sometimes if I am stalled, all I need to do is chop my To-Do list a bit, and suddenly I have more energy and motivation..

Kind of off-topic, I know :) I maintain my illusion of control in other ways.. like denial and escapism...

"A man who fears suffering is already suffering from what he fears." ~Michel de Montaigne

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I love this book too, Pat. 

I love this book too, Pat. I saw somewhere here GaL recommending it and the positive responses to it from others here who've read it or recently purchased it. So I got it too! I read a little every night. It's very helpful and calming. It makes so much sense! implement these things.... :)

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