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Patria
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Grief
Saturday, October 12, 2013
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go

Being Gentle with Ourselves

During Times of Grief

The process of adapting to change and loss takes energy. Grief is draining, sometimes exhausting. Some people need to "cocoon for transformation," in Pat Carnes's words, while going through grief.

We may feel more tired than usual. Our ability to function well in other areas of our life may be reduced, temporarily. We may want to hide out in the safety of our bedroom.

Grief is heavy. It can wear us down.

It's okay to be gentle with ourselves when we're gong through change and grief. Yes, we want to maintain the disciplines of recovery. But we can be compassionate with ourselves. We do not have to expect more from ourselves than we can deliver during this time. We do not even have to expect as much from ourselves as we would normally and reasonably expect.

We may need more rest, more sleep, more comfort. We may be more needy and have less to give. It is okay to accept ourselves, and our changed needs, during times of grief, stress, and change.

It is okay to allow ourselves to cocoon during times of transformation. We can surrender to the process, and trust that a new, exciting energy is being created within us.

Before long, we will take wings and fly.

God, help me accept my changed needs during times of grief, change, and loss.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie (c)1990, Hazelden Foundation.

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I've never really thought of

I've never really thought of recovering from gaming (or other addictions) as grieving, but it make sense. My personality is such that I don't do anything *not* to excess. My wife will ask me why I don't just eat one cookie instead of the whole box. I'll say...when have I ever done anything in moderation? So acting in such a novel way (i.e. not gaming in this case) is like burying a part of myself.

Thanks for sharing this Patria.

Game free since 3/3/2014.

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It's so important to take it

It's so important to take it easy when grieving. Grief knows no time table. Everyone is different and no one can ever know exactly how you feel, but we can love you and support you for sure! Be kind to yourself. Those who care will understand.

BIG HUGS

Remembering is an act of resurrection,
each repetition a vital layer of mourning,
in memory of those we are sure to meet again.

~ Nancy Cobb

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Hugs to both of you.

Hugs to both of you.

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