Old Chinese Proverb: "Knowledge is obtained from others; wisdom we must acquire ourselves."
As a kid, I lived in a dysfunctional family, as most of us here have also.
I didn't know what was wrong, so I read lots and lots of books on therapy which did help me understand what was happening, but didn't do much to help me live in dysfunction.
After I left home, I took that dysfunction with me. I read a lot of self help books (with subjects like mothers who are bi-polar, living with passive-aggressive people, Games People Play, etc.) and that taught me a lot about the subject, but had very little instruction on how to deal with dysfunction.
I went to church, temples, etc., read the Big Big Book (the Bible) and still didn't know how to live with dysfunction in myself and my family of origin.
It wasn't until I got a "drinking problem", was forced to join AA (or die), and learned a fairly simple program consisting of 12 steps that helped me 1) see what was truly me, 2) what the dysfunction was, and 3) how to deal with it.
I was starting to acquire wisdom for the first time in my life.
Then after a few years of quality sobriety in AA, my life went down the tubes by discovering a new addiction called Gaming. Instead of acquiring knowledge, I acquired gear, status, ambition, competition, points, titles, and other gamer addicts as friends.
Then comes OLGA. So now where am I? I'm acquiring knowledge from others, learning about the real program again, and hopefully getting wiser. Between AA and OLGA, I'm finding true sobriety again, not just physical sobriety, but mental and spiritual sobriety.
It didn't do me much good to have knowledge if I didn't know how to apply it. Being part of two fellowships (actually three as I am in Alanon too), is helping me "live" sobriety, rather than just know it.
So glad I am here. I love life again.