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Saturday, November 9, 2013
You are reading from the book Today's Gift

Love is something if you give away, you end up having more.
--Malvina Reynolds

The other side of giving is taking. Many of us were brought up to believe that it's not okay to take, so we diminish admiration that people give us. "Oh, this old rag, I got it at a garage sale for next to nothing." This response to a compliment can take away the joy of giving it from the person who admired the way we looked.

Giving needs taking to complete it. We can keep the cycle of generosity going by taking gracefully. A world without those who take would be unbalanced. When someone gives us love, appreciation, or a gift, we can show our real pleasure with a simple thank you, and stop thinking we don't deserve it.

Can I accept what's given to me today in the spirit it's offered?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families (c)1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation.

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Ouch...I need to be reminded

Ouch...I need to be reminded of this on a regular basis. I find it very easy to minimize praise that people give me because of how low my view has been of myself for so long, but in the end it's dishonoring to the person who was trying to praise me rather than a sign of humility.

C. S. Lewis in one of his books says something about how it's natural to praise something that we find admirable, and that the praise heightens the pleasure we find in beholding the thing we admire. Taking it that way shows that when I refuse to accept somebody's praise, I'm also lowering their enjoyment of whatever happened that drew the praise in the first place...that makes me selfish on 2 counts each time I do that...

Oh well...still working on it. :)

When you're going through hell...keep going. --Winston Churchill There is no pit so deep that God is not deeper still --Corrie ten Boom

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LS, I understand that

LS, I understand that completely. Thomas Merton says that we can't love others if we don't love ourselves, and we can't love ourselves without loving others, and beyond that we all love God.

We are God's children, created by God and loved by God. To love him back, we love ourselves and each other.

Does that make sense? I'm having a hard time loving myself. A work in progress.

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Patria wrote: Can I accept
Patria wrote:

Can I accept what's given to me today in the spirit it's offered?

Yes, I can Pat.

It's good to have goals and dreams, but while you're waiting for things to change, waiting for promises to come to pass, don't be discontent with where you are. Learn to enjoy the season that you're in--Pastor Joel Osteen

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