OLGA Reflections: Taking responsibility for our own recovery

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OLGA Reflections: Taking responsibility for our own recovery

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OLGA Reflections for August 14th

Wisdom from the chatroom

TAKING RESPONSIBILITY--TAKING ACTION

Reflection. What actions can we take to show we are taking responsibility for our recovery?

When we are gaming, we aren't responsible at all. It's part of what brought us here--we couldn't manage our lives, meet our responsibilities. When we had a choice between gaming and doing what we were supposed to, we chose gaming. Now we are in recovery. Recovery is about action. What can we do?

For starters, we can show that we are serious about recovery by going to meetings and by connecting with recovering addicts who can help us. And at first, we need a lot of help. We are not used to asking for help; we don't know how to accept it. We undermine ourselves. Maybe we don't stand up for ourselves, maybe we don't think enough of ourselves to attempt to be successful at anything. We go to the meetings and we connect with others, and we learn. In early recovery, meetings are very helpful. "90 meetings in 90 days" is not a bad start.

After a while, we may get a sponsor. We decide we will follow their advice, we decide to work the steps, to do whatever is necessary to recover. We start with the fellowship of OLGA as a higher power that can help us, but gradually we learn to rely on others: God, our conscience, the 12-step program, recovery literature. We start to learn how to accept life on life's terms and how to live with honesty and courage. This is new for us, and takes some time.

As our recovery matures, we continue to take responsibility for our development. We maintain the good habits we've started: exercise, prayer/meditation, daily application of the principles of the 12 steps, service to others by leading meetings or sponsorship. We continue to develop our positive stance toward life: accepting what we cannot change and finding the courage to do the next right thing.

Recovery requires help. But it's our responsibility to get it. And we take ahold of that responsibility through action.

"What saves a person is to take a step. And then another. It is always the same step, but you have to take it."

Questions: Have I taken responsibility for getting the help I need to recover? How am I demonstrating this?

Actions: Write down 3 simple things that you can do today to take responsibility, and do them.

Prayer: Higher Power, help me to see that my recovery is my responsibility, and to be willing to ask for and accept the help I will need. Help me to return to living a responsible life.

I am a recovering computer game and gambling addict. My recovery birthday: On May 6, 2012 I quit games and began working a program of recovery through OLGA No computer games or slot games for me since December 12, 2012. No solitaire games with real cards since June 2013.