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Wisdom of Recovery
Who is a newcomer?
Tradition 5: The group has but one primary purpose--to carry its message to the video game addict who still suffers.
When newcomers arrive at our self-help fellowship, they are often desperate. They post their stories with titles like "Help me, I don't know what to do," "I'm desperate", "It's become worse than drugs". One cry for help after another.
Some of us are pretty new ourselves. We came here and got help, but we're still struggling. We're still working our steps, trying to build a new life. We think those who helped us really knew what they were doing, really understood recovery. They saved us. We think that, but we're a little bit wrong. We haven't realized the truth yet: The fellowship is us. Just us. Nobody else. No doctors, no therapists. No one in charge. Just a group of addicts trying to recover together. And we carry a message from those who have recovered before.
One of the things that helped us see this was helping newcomers. They are desperate. They want to know what to do. We share with them what happened to us and what we did, and the magic starts to happen. We see them recognize something. They listen. They hear. And many times, they do what we suggest. And as we share, we also recognize something. We recognize ourselves in their stories. We remember how desperate we were when we showed up. As we speak to them, we begin to realize how far we have come. Every time we share, we understand our own recovery just a little bit more.
This is why a self-help fellowship works. Because I am you. Because the old-timer was a newcomer, and the newcomer will be an old-timer. Because we are gaming addicts and know what it is like to wake up with our face on the keyboard. We were driven to our addiction by distress, and were pulled by the promise of escape to another world. We lost our lives hour by hour, week by week, year by year. I know the hole you are in, friend. I have felt what you feel, I have done what you have done. Those are the words that bring hope to the newcomer.
We help ourselves and help each other. Because we're in it together. It's magic.
So who is a newcomer? In some sense, we all are. A newcomer is anyone who will listen. Anyone I can help.
Questions: Do I see that what I have been through can help someone else? Am I willing to begin to share my experience, strength and hope with others?
Prayer: Higher Power, help me remember that all I have to share with another comes from my experience. Help me to see that sharing my story is all that I need to do.
Actions: Share your story with a newcomer today, or listen to theirs.
I am a recovering computer game and gambling addict. My recovery birthday: On May 6, 2012 I quit games and began working a program of recovery through OLGA No computer games or slot games for me since December 12, 2012. No solitaire games with real cards since June 2013.