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RECOVERY - Author known to The Ultimate Authority - How easy it is to blame our problems on others. "Look at what he's doing"..."Look how long I've waited"..."Why doesn't she call?"..."If only he'd change then I'd be happy"... ** Often, our accusations are justified. We probably are feeling hurt and frustrated. In those moments, we may begin to believe that the solution to our pain and frustration is getting the other person to do what we want, or having the outcome we desire. But these self-defeating illusions put the power and control of our life in other people's hands. We call this codependency. ** The solution to our pain and frustration, however valid, is to acknowledge our own feelings. We feel the anger, the grief; then we let go of the feelings and find peace--within ourselves. We know our happiness isn't controlled by another person, even though we may have convinced ourselves it is. We call this acceptance. ** Then we decide that although we'd like our situation to be different, maybe our life is happening this way for a reason. Maybe there is a higher purpose and plan in play, one that's better than we could have orchestrated. We call this faith. ** Then we decide what we need to do, what is withiin our power to do to take care of ourselves. That's called recovery. ** It's easy to point our finger at another, but it's more rewarding to gently point it at, I will live with my pain and frustration by dealing with my own feelings...see you on the other side of the weekend...stay safe...loves :--)x

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Thanks for sharing Pat, good

Thanks for sharing Pat, good stuff.

It's good to have goals and dreams, but while you're waiting for things to change, waiting for promises to come to pass, don't be discontent with where you are. Learn to enjoy the season that you're in--Pastor Joel Osteen

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Joined: 05/04/2012 - 6:42pm
What I'm starting to see is

What I'm starting to see is that simply accepting the current (sometimes negative) situation, by itself opens me up, and opens up possibilities. I don't even need to believe that there is some great plan out there. I just have to accept what is, and when I stop fighting the past, stop fighting reality, then I can see other things. New possibilities. And I can sometimes see what the next right thing is, and I can sometimes do it.

Thanks, Pat.

I am a recovering computer game and gambling addict. My recovery birthday: On May 6, 2012 I quit games and began working a program of recovery through OLGA No computer games or slot games for me since December 12, 2012. No solitaire games with real cards since June 2013.

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