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Patria's picture
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Thursday, December 5, 2013
You are reading from the book Touchstones

[A relationship] takes time and deeds, and this involves trust, it involves making ourselves naked, to become sitting ducks for each other.
--Eldridge Cleaver

When we were lost in our excesses, we were limited in our relationships. The history of our friendships and loves may be evidence of that. Many of us had a primary relationship with a substance or an addictive behavior, and people had only second place. Many of us were so lost in our codependency that our relationships were two-dimensional. We didn't know how to be there with our whole selves. In recovery our ability to relate to others charges slowly. We learn how to love like everyone else learned - only we are learning a little later.

We have to be willing to be vulnerable. We also must be willing to be accountable - willing to say to our loved ones, "You can count on me to never leave without saying good bye." "You can count on me to be respectful of you." "You can count on me to tell you how I feel, even when it hurts." As we mature, with the help of the Steps, we also grow in our relationships with others.

Today, I will be true to my relationships.

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Hey Pat, thanks for sharing.

Hey Pat, thanks for sharing. Good stuffs. My husband and I need to talk more for sure :-).

It's good to have goals and dreams, but while you're waiting for things to change, waiting for promises to come to pass, don't be discontent with where you are. Learn to enjoy the season that you're in--Pastor Joel Osteen

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Relationships above

Relationships above everything else in life I reckon...

The true richness comes from true, in depth relationships.

Having a shoulder to cry without being judged... Providing a shoulder to listen without judgeging... being trusted and being able to trust... Sharing and caring...

Being able to walk on life's path covered with hurdles together... Learning from each other,growing and becoming a better person throughout our journey into consciousness...That is what life is all about I believe!

Thank you for posting Pat!

"The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past. You can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches." "The first step toward change is acceptance." "Once you accept yourself, you open the door to change. That's all you have to do." "Change is not something you do, it's something you allow."- Will Garcia

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