Sacrificing Our Rights

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Sacrificing Our Rights

I've given up the truth to those I've tried to please... and now it's my turn.
--Diana Ross (Michael Masser/Carole Bayer Sager)

Sacrificing our rights often results in other people mistreating us. We deny our own importance if we say yes when we mean no. Saying no doesn't mean we reject the other person. It simply means we are refusing a request. Some of us become people pleasers and say yes to everyone and everything. We let other people, places, and things control our lives. We allow our personal freedom to be trampled on. We actually become numb to our own needs.

Learning to say no is an act of love and honesty. When we speak up and are true to our feelings, people know who we are and where we stand.

Today let me learn the healthy art of saying No when it is in my best interest to say it.

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I really like this one,

I really like this one, Pat. I didn't realize just how much of a problem this kind of thing is for me until recently, but I'm now taking steps to address the issue. It still feels strange to be actively involved in taking care of myself, and the whole idea of evaluating other people's actions and requests in light of how it will affect my well-being is going to take a bit to get used to, but I'm liking it. Thanks for the reminder...

When you're going through hell...keep going. --Winston Churchill There is no pit so deep that God is not deeper still --Corrie ten Boom

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OH I hear you on that one

OH I hear you on that one LS. I've spent a life time people-pleasing, sometimes because I felt I needed to at work, but mostly just to keep the peace. And keeping the peace by people-pleasing is like putting gasoline in the fish tank. It not only doesn't work, it kills all the wildlife.\

This is still a work-in-progress. But at least we are not active in our addictions and can see reality for what it is and can do the right thing about it.

Kudos to us LS!

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LOL!  I love the analogy,

LOL! I love the analogy, and I am definitely a work in progress right now. For me, people-pleasing in one case wound up being more like pouring gasoline into the Molotov Cocktail somebody was getting ready to throw at me, but it's good to know that most of my failings in this case won't have such drastic consequences if I make that mistake again...

When you're going through hell...keep going. --Winston Churchill There is no pit so deep that God is not deeper still --Corrie ten Boom

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I'm learning to recognize

I'm learning to recognize the person throwing the molotov cocktail before he sets it up. It ain't easy. Usually that type of person seems to be smiling from ear to ear....

Hopefully, one of these days, I'll recognize it soon it enough to get the heck out of his/her way.

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