Shrinking the Inner Critic

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Shrinking the Inner Critic

Here's a good article with some solid strategies for shrinking the inner critic. I identified strongly with a lot of it.

http://www.pete-walker.com/shrinkingInnerCritic.htm

Acceptance. When I am disturbed, it is because a person, place, thing, or situation is unacceptable to me. I find no serenity until I accept my life as being exactly the way it is meant to be. Nothing happens in God’s world by mistake.  Acknowledge the problem, but live the solution!

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Wow, that's like my life

Wow, that's like my life with my mother! It also sounds like what my Dr. Bill discusses with me in session. My therapist is amazing. Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm bookmarking it.

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I got a lot out of this,

I got a lot out of this, GAL. Thank-you.

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Great! It fascinated me that

Great! It fascinated me that so much of what he says resonated with me because I don't tend to think of my experience as trauma. I think I still tend to discount, minimize my own experience :( But then, I do believe any experience, especially in our most formative years, that fundamentally shakes our trust in ourselves and in life, that gives fear such inordinate power over us has to be trauma. And I find some immediate relief, liberation! from my inner critic in the positive responses that he provides.

Acceptance. When I am disturbed, it is because a person, place, thing, or situation is unacceptable to me. I find no serenity until I accept my life as being exactly the way it is meant to be. Nothing happens in God’s world by mistake.  Acknowledge the problem, but live the solution!

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In one of my psychology

In one of my psychology classes the teacher got us to do an exercise where we wrote what our inner critic told us...and we were to identify which "voices" that critic took on (critical parents, teachers, past lovers, whoever). That was an eye opener in itself. Then, as the next exercise, he asked us to think of people who had validated us and made us feel good about who we were, and write "what we thought they might say to us". Then he asked us to think about those voices as our "inner coach" and try to incorporate them into our thinking. It was a powerful exercise. Reading this article reminded me of it. My inner coach needs to get angry with my inner critic :-)

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Indirectly related, I did an

Indirectly related, I did an exercise recently that involved identifying the specific traits of 2 people in my life that I admire, and it worked out that in both of them, for me it was their ability to take positive action on their own behalf, their healthy self-interest. They're both very generous, giving people, AND they know how to take care of themselves, too! What a concept. In some ways, I'm fairly good at taking care of me, but in others...ugh. Anyway, yeah, mine, too, Mel.

Acceptance. When I am disturbed, it is because a person, place, thing, or situation is unacceptable to me. I find no serenity until I accept my life as being exactly the way it is meant to be. Nothing happens in God’s world by mistake.  Acknowledge the problem, but live the solution!

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